How to go through life with a smile? Being depressed, worrying constantly, and being depressed is not our option. How to deal with life's challenges, stress and anxiety?
1. Ignore external stimuli
You can get rid of the standard response, the conditioned reflex, if you learn not to react, while maintaining a cool head and equanimity, for example, in the case of a doorbell. When faced with any negative stimulus, we should say to ourselves: “The doorbell rings, but I don't have to open it. Let them call themselves. " And if, while uttering this phrase, you sit quietly, without straining, doing nothing and not responding to the call in any way, this technique will allow you to maintain composure and spiritual comfort.
2. If it's worth worrying about, it's only tomorrow
The recommendation to count to 10, when you feel that you are about to rip your irritation on someone, is based on the same principle: delaying the reaction leads to muscle relaxation. And when the muscles are relaxed, the person is not irritated, especially since some problems turn out to be far-fetched. And, first of all, it is required to find out whether what happened is so terrible, and, if possible, to reduce the level of importance of this event. Analyze the circumstances, determine what is real and what is only your negative fantasy. Think pleasant.
3. Mentally re-enact a place where you feel protected
Your nervous system needs rest, it needs a “secluded place” to recuperate and protect itself from stress. Imagine a place where you would feel calm and relaxed: a beach, sauna, home, forest, etc. Sounds as close as possible to reality, smells, colors, etc. - stay there. Relax!
4. Displacement of anxiety
To get rid of stress, you should completely forget about work or any other activity in order to occupy your brain and thus get away from exciting thoughts.
5. Don't let trifles overwhelm you
Little things and little things are at the heart of many of our troubles. In order not to get annoyed because of them, we need to form a new attitude in our brain aimed at pleasure, for example, to imagine the disturbing sound of a leaking tap in the next apartment with the trill of a spring drip and the babbling of a brook while relaxing in the forest, etc.
6. Use the theory of probability
Calm down, evaluate all the pros and cons … The probability of an event exciting you is most likely close to zero. So why worry?
7. Deal with the inevitable
In life, we often find ourselves in various unpleasant circumstances that cannot be changed. They are inevitable. We are faced with a choice - to accept them and try to adapt to them, or poison our lives, bring ourselves to a nervous breakdown, depression or chronic fatigue syndrome.
8. Limit your excitement
We set the limiter at a meeting, for example, we wait no more than 10-15 minutes. When you want to continue participating in a hopeless case, stop, ask yourself the following questions: "How important is this to me?", "To what extent should I be worried about this?"
9. Don't live on memories of a negative past
Don't torture yourself with memories of past mistakes. There is only one way to benefit from the past: to analyze the mistakes made so as not to repeat them in the future, and then forget.
10. Give in if necessary
By stubbornly insisting on our point of view, we become like capricious children. Listen to the opinion of your opponent, respect him and treat yourself with the necessary degree of self-criticism. Reasonable concessions are not only good for the cause, but also inspire respect from others and, most importantly, prevent stress.
11. You can't be perfect in absolutely everything
Sometimes people live in constant fear that they are worse than others. And attempts to comply always and in everything with the highest requirements often lead to painful losses. It is important to remember that the talents and capabilities of each of us are limited. Try, first of all, to strive for the realization of your main life goals, to do perfectly your main work and what you have a vocation for. For a sense of contentment, it is enough to be successful in one or two areas, and do the rest at an average level.
12. Don't ask too much
Anyone who expects too much from others is constantly frustrated that colleagues, friends, and loved ones do not meet their exorbitant needs. It is impossible to remake an adult person, and you unconsciously strive to "adjust" others for yourself. Accept people for who they are, because everyone has a right to be different. Look for dignity in others, and rely on these qualities in communication.
13. Look for the positives
Whatever happens to you, strive to find good in everything. This is not about self-deception, but about simply learning to see the positive facets, in what at first glance seems unpleasant. For example, you have lost your job, be glad that you do not have to get to it across the city, you will have free time, and you will find a job that you have dreamed of doing all your life, etc.
14. And as a final advice to prevent stress, let us quote from an ancient Eastern prayer: “Lord, give me the strength to come to terms with what I cannot change, give me the courage to fight what I have to change, and give me wisdom to be able to distinguish one from the other."