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2023 Author: Katelyn Chandter | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-05-21 13:08
In modern culture, too much idealize love, expecting from it all the most beautiful, better and wonderful. You will fall in love, and this will solve all your life problems and make you happy. But rather, everything will be the other way around. Love will bring you more problems than you had before and will make you deeply unhappy. Love alone is not enough and not enough if you want to have a really good relationship and establish a happy life.
The importance of love in life is exaggerated too much, using romantic films, glossy magazines, pretentious Internet and vulgar television for this. Everyone begins to believe that with the advent of love, everything will change for the better. Life will improve, mood will improve, things will go uphill, financial condition will rise and prosperity will come. Love will end all sorrow and suffering. Well, you are a dreamer!
We overestimate the impact of love with some person on our future life. Usually we fall in love with the wrong people, spend a lot of energy and resources, but as a result we get only problems. We idealize love too much that we get burned every time. Love alone is not enough and not enough, so that they would not have thought of it for themselves. A happy life and relationships are built in a completely different way, and not like in the movies.
How do we fall in love
Falling in love and love are not equal to compatibility in a relationship. If you fall in love with someone, it does not mean that you are a great match for each other. At best, we pay attention to the character, but usually we fall for a pretty appearance and some kind of invented image. Love is the emotion to which we succumb when we let go of the mind.
You can easily fall in love with someone who doesn't fit at all, who has other plans for life, or doesn't treat you well enough. You can fall in love with someone who did not care about your plans, happiness and desires. This happens when an incompatible man and woman are saved from loneliness in each other's arms.
When you're going out on a date and falling in love again, take your mind with you. It would be nice to use not only the heart, emotions and attraction, but also the brain. You should pay all attention to the person and analyze what is happening before falling in love without memory. Otherwise, you will fall in love and enter into an incompatible relationship, which will make you suffer again.
Love is not worth sacrifice. In films, for the sake of love, they do everything that is required and not even required. But in real life, you will be required to make concessions, sacrifice something important, or destroy yourself. Sometimes the game is not worth the candle when all the pluses of love are crossed out by minuses. You should not enter into such a relationship, or you should immediately flee from them, as soon as you feel the lasso squeezing your neck.
Learn to fall in love not only with your heart, but also with your head.
Love doesn't solve relationship problems
You can love each other like Romeo and Juliet, but that won't keep your relationship from falling apart. As in Shakespeare's drama, love alone is not enough and not enough to be happy in a relationship.
Love cannot conquer everything if the relationship falls apart and is not supported by both. Initial emotional uplift and love will soften the grinding in, but if you don't build reliable bridges, you are doomed. In love, it is more important to find a friend in the person of the second half. If you find a comrade and a good friend, then love will endure. Learn to be friends with each other, find common interests and hobbies. This will help keep the love between the man and the woman.
You need to constantly work on relationships, but you should not take it as hard labor. This is a job, but like a favorite job that brings pleasure and dividends.
Love is not the main thing
Love is beautiful, but you shouldn't put it at the very center of your life. You will fall in love dozens of times in your life. You will be in a toxic relationship, break up and fall in love again. Do not put love at the head and do not rely on it like a lifesaver. Love will beautify life, but it will not make it completely happy.
If you want to enjoy love, then don't put it at the center of your life. Love is wonderful, but it only decorates a happy life, and does not replace it or bring it with it. Take care of your interests, follow life goals, enjoy the world, but love at the same time. Love is necessary, love is wonderful, love is beautiful, but love alone is not enough for the happiest life and happiest relationships.
Love is the icing on the cake that complements the cake of life and the relationship itself. But a cherry without a cake is meaningless.