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Do you want to be considered an interesting conversationalist and always leave a pleasant impression on those around you? Having conversational skills will help you in your relationships, career, friendships, and life in general. How to become a good conversationalist in any situation and place?
The modern world is a world of communication and communication. Through communication, relationships, friendship, career, money and other values come to us. Do you know how to communicate with people or are you experiencing difficulties, are shy and do not know what to talk about?
How to start a conversation with strangers, make connections with others and have a conversation with people? How to be an interesting conversationalist on social networks: VKontakte, Facebook or Odnoklassniki? How to conduct a conversation on the phone or correspondence through instant messengers? Here are 111 tips from smart communication books to help you have conversations and conversations.
The ability to communicate with people will allow you to be seen as an interesting interlocutor and person. And this gives many advantages for life. Sociable people are more likely to achieve success in all areas, while the taciturn ones remain on the sidelines of life.
"If you want to be smart, learn to ask intelligently, listen carefully, answer calmly and stop talking when there is nothing more to say." Johann Caspar Lavater
How do you learn to be an interesting conversationalist? List of Tips from Conversation Books
1. When talking, think about whether the topic is interesting to the interlocutor. Talk only about what interests or worries the interlocutor.
2. Smile. Look friendly, positive, and open to help build contact faster.
3. The golden rule of morality says: "Treat other people the way you want to be treated." But better act according to the platinum rule: "Treat other people the way they want to be treated."
4. Use the technique of active listening: listen carefully, nod, assent, agree, help with the necessary phrases and thoughts.
5. Call your interlocutor by name more often, because the sound of the name is very pleasant for any person. Therefore, always remember or write down the names of new acquaintances.
6. Take care of your appearance, image and image. Everyone is pleased to talk with a neat and stylish person who smells of delicious perfume.
7. Don't be a bore, a whiner, a complainer, or a boring person. Everyone runs from such as from fire.
8. Compliment, notice the positive traits and strengths of the interlocutor. This will evoke sympathy in return.
9. In conversation, try to understand the character and mood of the interlocutor at the moment.
10. Try to show yourself from the best and presentable side so that you like it faster.
11. Find common interests with the interlocutor in order to find common ground: hobbies, hobbies or dreams.
12. Work on diction, clarity and beauty of speech.
13. Treat all people with respect. This makes a great impression.
14. Do not have a formal conversation about the weather or about something empty. The interlocutor immediately stops listening and withdraws. He gets bored.
15. Try not to be annoying when talking and not hang extra noodles on the ears of the interlocutor.
16. Express the essence in simple and accessible language so that others do not have the idea that you are being clever.
17. Let your interlocutor speak more than you.
18. Be optimistic, not pessimistic in conversation. This evokes positive emotions.
19. Communication should not be a monologue. Limit your story and sentences so that the other person can speak up too.
20. Feel free to ask questions of the interlocutor to strike up a conversation and establish contact.
21. Be prepared for questions of any level and try to answer them, despite the difficulties.
22. Don't argue aggressively and categorically. Even disagreements can be resolved peacefully and calmly. An argument is a careful search for compromises.
23. Use the answers of the interlocutor in order to continue the conversation on the topic of interest to him.
24. Avoid gossip and talk bad about other people. Otherwise, they will think that you spread gossip behind your backs.
25. Never interrupt the interlocutor and do not insert your "5 kopecks" to tell your case or story.
26. Focus on the interlocutor when you have a conversation with him, and do not be distracted by other things.
27. Make the unfamiliar to the interlocutor understandable, using familiar objects, phenomena and comparisons.
28. Do not make fun of people, their thoughts and desires. This is very disrespectful. Laugh with them when they are having fun themselves.
29. Work on your voice. A low, velvety and chesty voice is more pleasant to hear than a shrill or uneven voice.
30. An important skill of the interlocutor is not only to say what is needed, but also to keep silent about what is not needed.
31. Be tactful with your interlocutor and respect his feelings.
32. Observe the non-verbal signals of the interlocutor. Is the person looking at their watch, pulling out their phone, or trying to sneak away? Time to end the conversation.
33. Avoid technical terms when speaking to people outside your profession.
34. Lead an active life in order to be an interesting conversationalist who has a lot to tell. Try to be a man of the world, global and large-scale, with a cosmopolitan outlook. Such people are attracted.
35. Do not open up too much, especially in front of an unfamiliar person.
36. Try to keep abreast of the latest events in the world to keep the conversation going.
37. It is not necessary, in a dispute or confrontation, to be right.
38. Shyness, insecurity and an inferiority complex interfere with the conversation.
39. Be attentive to what the interlocutor says and remember. It is stupid to ask again later.
40. Expand your horizons to be savvy for conversations on any topic.
41. Do not ask too many questions, as if it were an interrogation or an interview.
42. Do not try to touch on too many topics of conversation, jumping from one to another.
43. Repeat the body language of the other person to demonstrate your similarity.
44. Keep in stock a dozen interesting stories that are appropriate for a particular situation.
45. The best way to win an argument is to avoid it.
46. Do not try to remake people and accept them as they are.
47. Read a couple of books on public speaking and communication with people. Be sure to read Dale Carnegie's book How to Win Friends and Influence People.
48. Start a conversation about new products in the world, achievements and interesting events, but do not indulge in the retelling of outright gossip.
49. Try to look at things from the point of view of the interlocutor.
50. Answer the questions in a simple way. Otherwise, you will get the impression that you are not interested in the conversation, but you want to end it faster.
51. Don't tell anything "in secret" about other people. Such people do not inspire trust and respect.
52. Allow the interlocutor to preserve his reputation and face if he gets into a difficult situation.
53. Willingly and decisively admit that you are wrong, if this happens.
54. Watch your manners to make a good impression.
55. Give the impression that a person's mistake is easy to fix and things will work out.
56. Do not use tight postures that indicate stiffness and lack of comfortable conversation.
57. Sometimes you can be silent together. Don't try to fill any gap with words.
58. Sincerely convince the interlocutor of his own importance.
59. Present your ideas and thoughts brightly, not boring and dull.
60. Do not compare the interlocutor with anyone else. Each person considers himself unique and unrepeatable.
61. Try not to touch on the topic of politics, religion, health and personal life.
62. A sense of humor is the key to the success of a good conversation.
63. Recognize pauses in a conversation when the other person is waiting for your comment and opinion.
64. In conversation, try not to brag, it looks funny.
65. Rid your speech from the words of parasites. How do you recognize them? Tell a story and record it on the recorder.
66. Suddenly, do not deviate from the topic of the conversation, showing disrespect to the interlocutor.
67. Help the person to speak out, being interested in his opinion and desires.
68. Increase the self-esteem of the interlocutor during the conversation.
69. Expand your vocabulary and memorize quotes from the great.
70. Do not avoid communicating with people and keep the conversation going. This will allow you to be more sociable and sociable.
71. Control your emotions and facial expressions while talking.
72. Tell about yourself and about the events in which you took part. This is usually interesting.
73. Don't answer a question with a question. It annoys people.
74. Try to avoid gross flattery. Focus more on the real merits and strengths of the interlocutor.
75. Do not go out of your way to please the interlocutor. This is repulsive.
76. Speak well of other people. The interlocutor will try to match your best idea and opinion.
77. Try to express your opinion only on those topics in which you understand something.
78. Use the word “I” less in conversation, which demonstrates overt selfishness.
79. Each person has a unique experience. Let the person teach you something. He'll love it.
80. Practice talking with people more. Visit new places, start conversations with strangers.
81. Sometimes touch people. This allows you to quickly establish friendly and warm relationships. But it should be relevant.
82. Do not show that you are in a hurry or want to quickly end the conversation. This will create the impression of a bad conversationalist and an unpleasant person.
83. First talk about your mistakes, and then criticize carefully.
84. Do not draw conclusions for the interlocutor, do not finish his anecdote and do not guess the continuation of the story.
85. Do not repeat the same phrases - this is disrespect for the interlocutor. But vary the sentences by repeating and reinforcing the thought.
86. Eat to establish emotional and spiritual reciprocity in conversation.
87. Don't be afraid to take the initiative in conversation to help the shy person open up.
88. Show respect for someone else's point of view, and do not try to smash it to smithereens.
89. Use self-irony in a conversation, but do not overdo it.
90. Share your thoughts, ideas and interesting notes with the people around you.
91. Do not try to fish out personal information and what the person does not want to talk about.
92. If a person criticizes himself and scolds, then come to his aid. Refute his statements and support.
93. Excessive display of emotions can embarrass the interlocutor. In conversation, restrain yourself and your emotions.
94. Have your own passions and hobbies that you can share with others.
95. Learn to enjoy communication. This positive mood will create an image of a good conversationalist and a pleasant person.
96. Express yourself more clearly and distinctly so that it is clear what you are talking about.
97. Do not use hesitation in the speech of the interlocutor, it can knock him out of thought.
98. Ask for advice from a person in the area in which he understands. It might flatter him.
99. Tell your interlocutor about yourself to show your openness.
100. Do not dominate during the conversation, but let the interlocutor lead the line of the conversation himself.
101. Hide your flaws and negative sides. There are no perfect people. Demonstrate yourself from the advantageous side.
102. Do not lecture other people or criticize openly.
103. Avoid familiarity, familiarity and vulgarity when speaking.
104. Take a cue from talented public speakers, lecture speakers and TV show hosts.
105. Show sincere empathy for the interlocutor, empathizing with his mood and emotions.
106. Praise people for the slightest achievement and approve of successful steps.
107. Maintain eye contact with the interlocutor, rather than goggle around.
108. Try to be a real individual, and not a fake and a fake, of which there are so many.
109. Show charisma, smile, laugh, show gestures and emotions.
110. People feel how we treat them and what we feel. Be warm and friendly to your interlocutor. Try to show frank sympathy.
111. End the conversation on a positive note, which will leave a favorable impression.
112. Memorize the small features of the conversation or life of the interlocutor, so that later they will surprise.
113. Emphasize the positive traits and dignity of a person.
114. Be always in touch with the person to maintain a friendly relationship.
115. Identify the weaknesses of the interlocutor in order to play on them.
116. Look for what most of all excites and interests the interlocutor.
How do you learn to be an interesting conversationalist? Save the entire list of communication tips and be sure to use. Be the kind of person with whom a conversation is like the fun of reading a good book. Then everyone will love you. Do you know how to have entertaining and interesting conversations?