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2023 Author: Katelyn Chandter | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-05-21 13:08
When a girl lives in a man's territory, receives expensive gifts, earns less or does not work at all, then we look at it condescendingly. But as soon as a man receives less or lives with a girl, then one can immediately hear reproaches that he at least burned, even if he works like Carlo's dad.
We live in the modern era, when every corner is screaming about equality, but when it comes to money in relationships, everything changes. A man should be a breadwinner, and a woman should be a keeper of the hearth.
The concept of the head of the family has been out of date for a hundred years, and gender equality has affected all spheres of life. Now sometimes women have even more rights and opportunities than men. But the problem of the ratio of wages to the side of men must necessarily be. This is the opinion of many couples who have established and outdated patterns.
The difference in wages of men and women
We live in a new and advanced era, when men can earn less than their other half. It is normal that someone is a little more fortunate than the other. Men can live in a woman's territory or even go on maternity leave, because this implies equality in relationships.
However, when a man receives less than a wife or a girl, then questions arise that are inspired by established stereotypes. For interest, we went to the women's forum, where the problem of lower earnings of men was discussed. Many women expressed themselves in the key: "I cannot and do not want to feed a healthy man for my money." Other women spoke out for the fact that a man should work and help around the house, then everything is fine.
In principle, it is true that a man should not sit around his neck, but make efforts to provide for his family. But if he does this to the best of his ability, then what questions? However, family psychologists have long proved that more than half of the quarrels in relationships are precisely because of money. When you have an income imbalance or a lack of money, it can ruin the relationship.
A man or not a man?
Often less-earning men are labeled as not being a real man. But what if a man divorces a well-earning wife and then finds himself a little-earning girl? Will a man be more of a man after that? Will his level of masculinity increase?
It is doubtful, because this is not how a person is evaluated. Masculinity is not determined by the relationship between a couple's earnings and social status. The instability of the economic situation and the problems of the level of wages should not determine the personality of a person. Does a guy earn less than a girl? What's the big deal if he's making efforts to keep the family happy?
What if you earn less?
1. Make a feasible contribution to the relationship
Women are more likely to leave men not when they are earning less, because this can be found in many families. When a man does not make an effort to earn money and does not help at all around the house, in this case, the relationship is at risk. If a man supports the family, then there should be no questions. It is the responsibility of men and women to contribute as much as possible to a relationship.
2. Don't bother with it
If your wife or girlfriend earned less, would your relationship be stronger or more loved? It's time to accept the fact that in the modern world, man and woman are equal, and therefore anything happens in life. Marriage is an equal union, where both are earners. Today she brought more, tomorrow - you. Anything can happen, and therefore you should not bother with it.
3. Being proud of a woman is important
If a woman earns good money, then she should be proud of it, and not remain silent. She is smart, purposeful and punchy, how not to fall in love with such? This is a reason for pride, and not for worrying about the fact that she gets more. The man is also great, just the girl is great with two pluses.
4. To run away is not a decision, but surrender
There are enough advantages in the fact that a woman earns worthily. Is it worth worrying or even parting for this reason? Definitely not. Some couples break up, due to established stereotypes, or a slander of well-wishers. Girlfriends will always repeat behind your back or slander other lovers to interfere with personal life. But in a relationship of two, only two should be, and not gossips and dubious "well-wishers."
You can disperse, but then what? Women often never find a better man who loves them so much. Live with cats or an unloved man? A man can also find another girl who receives less. But why should this please your it? Why ruin a relationship just because a woman gets more? After parting, you will not be happy, no matter how you think.
5. Enjoy life and relationships
Who lives in whose territory? Who Earns Less? It's time to get away from this nonsense and try to find something more important than commercialism for money. Create a family, build your future, raise children, achieve your goals and enjoy your happiness. Life is too short to find fault with an extra ruble and ruin relationships. And when to live? Do not indulge in foolishness and do not listen to anyone. Better enjoy a happy relationship and a fulfilling life.
Your relationship does not determine who earns more or less. Your relationship is not determined by whose apartment and car. Your relationship determines your very relationship within. Love each other and don't do nonsense.
If a girl or wife brought a mammoth larger than you, then there is nothing to worry about. There are more important things. You are a family, and this is the main thing. Love each other, do less nonsense, and enjoy more happiness.