My girlfriend is a feminist

2023 Author: Katelyn Chandter | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-05-21 13:08

The modern world is moving forward so rapidly that your new girlfriend or even your usual wife can easily become feminists. But these fashion trends won't make your relationship better, but rather ruin it pretty quickly. How to disarm female feminism in a girl to keep or make your relationship happy?

Feminism is good for women fighting for their rights and eradicating gender inequality in society. But it's bad for fulfilling relationships, like misogyny in men. Such extremes negatively affect the relationship, which will lead to the breakdown of your love and the relationship itself.

The girl can be originally a feminist, or become her a little later, when you have been together for a long time. Feminist views can get in the way when a girl tries to build relationships according to her own patterns, which are far from what you want.

As a result, a man will have to look after, protect, care for, amuse, seek, please, give, provide, pay, support and many others. And the woman? And a woman doesn't owe anything!

Unhealthy feminism and relationships

Usually feminists fight for their rights, but often violate men's rights. The fight for equality or the fight for human rights turns into a fight against men. They like to say that they are fighting only against patriarchal men, but all men who voluntarily do not give up their place of leadership are equated with them.

In a career, business and even relationships, someone is always in the lead, and someone is the underdog. But why should one be inferior in everything to the other only on the basis of gender? These are just double standards that people like to talk about in the modern world.

At one point, a girl can change her views to more feminist ones. This can happen under the influence of feminist articles or videos on the Internet, and sometimes on TV. Often single girlfriends turn out to be feminists, which will not influence your girlfriend in the best way. All this will pretty much spoil your relationship and prospects for a happy future.

What happens if a girl becomes a feminist?

Has the girl started to seize more power in your relationship? At one point, the girl herself decides how to spend the money, where to go, how to spend the weekend, what to do in her free time and what to do in any situation. Instead of general advice, relations turn into a monologue and dictatorship on the basis of matriarchy.

Men are more accommodating and calm, and therefore do not always pay attention to warning signs of change. Gradually, women take all the power in relationships into their own hands, thereby destroying the fragile balance of relationships. The first conflicts appear due to the fact that women's opinion has become decisive, and men's only recommendatory or completely optional.

Feminism imposed on the man the procedure for transferring his power to the woman, but offered nothing in return. Just give in, otherwise you will be called an outdated, patriarchal and wrong man.

But when the balance of rights outweighs women, relationship problems begin. If a woman wants to lead in a pair, then she must then pull absolutely all responsibilities. If you want to command, you must earn, protect and do absolutely everything in the family.

But a feminist girlfriend doesn't behave like that. She wants to command, control and manipulate, but does not want to take responsibility. You cannot take only the benefits of leadership, but not take on responsibilities. A normal relationship won't last that long.

What if a girl becomes a feminist?

In such a situation, there are always several solutions. If the girl was originally a feminist, and you just met, then it would be better to follow the strategy of Alexander the Great. Break this Gordian knot in parting. A girl may have too many cockroaches that prevent her from building a normal relationship. It's easier to find an adequate girl with whom you can build a happy relationship. Flee, poor fellow!

If you have been dating for a long time, or you really like the girl, you can disarm and tame feminism in a woman. What to do? Offer her full equality, regardless of gender. Play by her rules until the girl gets tired of herself and play these games.

1. Keep your money with you

Whoever has money controls the relationship, and giving it all to your other half is a stupid idea. In a relationship, everyone earns himself and has only his own money. But not when her money is her money and your money is your money. Do you see the catch here?

Manage your money yourself, inviting the girl to spend exactly half on everything. Pay for dinner, rent and other expenses in half. When you are imbued with her ideas of equality, you may find an interesting observation. For some reason, many girls do not want to share finances equally. Feminism, but only where it is beneficial to the girl.

Keep your money to yourself, suggesting that you pay for everything equally. Many girls already give up at this first stage.

2. Offer to share everything equally

After all, putting things in the washer, preparing food, using the dishwasher, or turning on a robot vacuum cleaner is not so difficult that women will reproach us for it. Household chores are simple, not backbreaking work in which women are killed.

Since you have feminism, it means that now the male role is not only with you, but equally. Let the girl also entertain you, take care of you, amuse you, take care of you and give you gifts. Do exactly half of the work so that the girl has to perform uncharacteristic male affairs and roles.

If a girl decides how you will spend Saturday or Sunday, then tell her that you choose the next weekend. You go fishing, a soccer game, or a bike ride. In any case, it's not as cruel as driving every weekend to her parents' dacha to plow there during your legal day off.

In a normal relationship, it's hard to imagine an outrageous feminist or a hardened misogynist. Relationships should take into account the fact that this is a union of a man and a woman, and not a contact of two identical creatures. We are not robots and not clones to take on other people's roles or to engage in roles that are unusual for us by nature.

A woman should remain a woman, as a man should remain a man. Otherwise, the relationship between the sexes is impossible. At least happy.