How to flirt with a girl: the secrets of successful flirting

2023 Author: Katelyn Chandter | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-05-21 13:08

Hello dear reader. This time I will again touch upon the topic of meeting and communicating with the fair sex. In fact, a lot of guys have real problems with this. I have more than once come across a situation when a man is handsome and even seems to like it. But as soon as he opens his mouth and begins to flirt, the whole veil instantly disappears, leaving me alone with the awkward vulgar.

If you regularly drive up to girls, and the result is sad all the time, then something is being done wrong. I propose to go through a small educational program on flirting. This will happen precisely from the height of the women's bell tower, since many guys complain that they cannot understand what exactly is in the girl's head. How about a few tips to get you a little further than nowhere in the dating process?

What is flirting

I'll start with the base. How to flirt with a girl if you don't know what you are dealing with at all? So, flirting is a kind of hook on which the "victim" you like should fall for. But bait is indispensable here. Well-formed phrases, interesting hints and correct behavior act as bait.

Basically, you are dealing with dexterous manipulation. Only in this case it is very important to achieve a positive effect so that the girl does not feel intrusive on the part of a potential boyfriend. Flirting should be easy and enjoyable for both. If someone begins to experience discomfort, then the result will be the opposite of the desired one.

Flirting is one of the ways to get a girl interested and even slightly aroused. Women love to play a little "who bred whom". Give your companion a chance to have fun.

Don't forget about the smile

Gloomy guys make you melancholy. The effect of boredom is created, from which you just want to run away as soon as possible. If you have something wrong with your mood, then you shouldn't flirt with a girl. It is unlikely that someone will be tempted by a sullen man, from whom a bunch of problems blows in plain text. Relax and smile.

Show that you are in a good mood and share it with your interlocutor. A smiling person disposes to himself, you want to communicate with him. This disarms even the most "prickly" and characteristic lady. Just watch how you smile. The impression made on the girl strongly depends on this. Remember that the smile should be:

• sincere;
• friendly;
• calm;
• natural;
• relaxed.

Do not try to stretch your lips in such a way as to show all 32 teeth (or a little less, as is often the case with men living in problem areas of the city). It is better when the muscles of the face are in a relaxed state, otherwise the smile will be forced. Try to squeeze out something light and sincere, and not a malicious grin.

Practice in front of the mirror. Better yet, ask a girl you know for advice. Let her tell you what impression your smile makes on her. And I do not advise from the very first moment to try to mimic a super-sexy hot macho. Most often it turns out to be an extremely miserable sight. Especially if your teeth are far from advertising dental services in the "after" section.

Adapt to her communication style

If you're wondering how to flirt with a girl, then basically dating and subsequent flirting doesn't work very well. In this case, pay attention to the style and manner of the conversation. In order for your coquetry to be appropriate and well received by the girl, try to match the speed of her conversation and the volume. In this case, the interlocutor will already be comfortable and interesting to communicate with you.

Take your time to give away all your knowledge with regards to flirting. Too fast a pace of conversation is confusing and does not give the girl the opportunity to understand exactly what you want from her. High-quality flirting is just unhurried and a little cutesy.

Keep your posture

A beautiful figure and stately appearance will immediately give you an increase of several points to the chance to interest the girl you like. You don't have to be Mister Universe to do this. Straighten your shoulders and straighten your back to touch higher. This will tighten the chest, and the small folds on the abdomen and sides will no longer be as noticeable as before.

Good posture makes you more confident. Emotionally, women are very fond of these men. They will subconsciously perceive you as a potential boyfriend. Therefore, it will be much easier to flirt in this case.

Be emotional

During the conversation, do not forget to show the interlocutor that you are a living person. Active gestures will make flirting more open and trusting. Any conversation becomes interesting when supported by relevant gestures.

Just don't overdo it. If you flirt with a stranger, there is a risk of breaking the safe distance for her and invading her personal space. Not everyone likes it. And also, chatting away, you can forget and hit a new acquaintance. Such an oversight clearly does not increase your chances of winning a flirting result.

Roll up even interestingly and with a twinkle. Phrases should be as lively and sincere as possible. Any presentation will be much better if you add at least a drop of emotion to it.

Don't forget about compliments

Don't know how to flirt with a girl right? Show her that you are interested in her adorable looks. Flirting without compliments is a waste of time. But every note about figure and face must be correct:

• Avoid deliberate vulgarity. If you turn to an unfamiliar girl on the street and say that she has a "cool ass", most likely, she will simply ignore you. And this is the best deal. In case of strong resentment, you can run into a slap in the face.
• Do not be rude. This has nothing to do with flirting at all. This behavior only repels girls. Sometimes men think that this is how real brutal males should flirt. This is a serious mistake worth a positive reputation.
• Do not try to lie to brighten up the impression of yourself. If the girl clearly ran out into the street only to the store for bread, do not go too far and crumble in admiration. She still has eyes, so lies and too frank flattery in this case will definitely not work.
• Speak in a cheerful and firm voice. Shivering and stuttering is best removed. Such aspects will spoil the nicest compliment.
• Don't speak too loudly. This is personal and even a little intimate information that should be communicated exclusively to a girl so that she does not get embarrassed. What if the compliment is unsuccessful? One-on-one, you can somehow fix the situation. When the whole street heard this, you can forget about romantic acquaintance and flirting.
• Say goodbye to the "immortal classics" of compliments. Better come up with something of your own and play on originality. By the way, disarming honesty can work too. Tell the lady that you really liked her, for example, with her luxurious hair. It looks much better than trying to lie on the go. Ladies love openness from men.

As you can see, it's not all that difficult. If you really really like the girl, compliments will be generated by themselves. Just show a little imagination and wit.

Maintain eye contact

If you didn't know how to flirt with a girl before, it's time to open your eyes. In the literal sense of the word. When flirting with an adorable new acquaintance, be sure to maintain eye contact. This is not always easy for a man, since appetizing forms invariably lead the gaze to wander somewhere below the face. Be strong, I believe in you!

When you look a girl directly in the eyes, you express a clear interest. In addition, this is a very bold act, from which many ladies are very nicely embarrassed. If you still smile and flirt easily, then the flirting attempt will be successful.

They just didn't drill the girl with their eyes, like an investigator of the UK. A fixed gaze can be uncomfortable, as if she is under interrogation or a harsh jury at a beauty pageant. Look at her, smile, then see something else a little to the side. This is called "shooting with your eyes." If you learn this lesson, then you can safely assign yourself the status of a romantic sniper.

Try to touch the girl

If you are openly flirting with your interlocutor, then do not miss the moment, as if by chance, touch her hand. This means the interest of the man and the desire to get closer to the woman. This kind of flirting can be called more intimate. He is not suitable for a first acquaintance. But flirting with it on a date is quite possible.

You should not touch other places such as the neck or collarbone if you are not familiar with the girl. She may regard such a gesture as a brazen seduction. If sex is not yet part of your new girlfriend's plans, then this behavior will not be to your taste. She may ask to remove her hand, not to touch, move a little further, or even freak out and run away.

The touch should be very light, almost weightless. You can't do it harshly and too persistently. You’ll just scare your friend. Don't try to touch your face. This is a very intimate gesture and can be easily misunderstood. Do not put your hands below the waist either. Wait for mutual flirting. When the girl is ready for such a manifestation of coquetry, she herself will begin to approach in order to get touched by the desired part of the body.

For those guys who are not used to being white-handed, I advise you to first check the condition of your fingers. If you decide to start flirting with a girl after visiting the garage, then touching with dirty hands will not bring any pleasure. Most likely, the lady will frown with disgust and ask not to do so. Never. Generally. And don't talk to her again.

Shorten the distance

How to flirt with a girl so that she understands your interest? It's pretty simple actually. Try to lean towards the other person while flirting. Pretend to say something secret that only she needs to hear. By the way, it's also nice to lower your voice so that the lady herself has to get a little closer. Women's initiative is always preferable.

By reducing the distance between you and the girl, you automatically invade her personal space. Try to do this as carefully as possible so as not to cause a negative reaction. Monitor your non-verbal metrics. If she does not try to move back at the same time, then you can completely continue. Just do not come very close, as it is banally indecent.

All translate into humor

Universal advice for everyone who wants to find a new acquaintance. A good joke perfectly relieves tension between unfamiliar people, cheers up and promotes the continuation of the dialogue. But there are also limitations here. Here's a list of topics you shouldn't joke about if you're flirting with a girl:

• everything that can kill your appetite (you yourself understand what I mean);
• black humor (not all girls are able to laugh at outright tin);
• professional jokes (this is especially true for doctors, you are too specific comrades);
• sex and vulgarity in any form (at the very beginning of flirting and meetings, such is repulsive);
• profanity (mat does not decorate and does not make it cooler);
• oppression of women (feminists are not asleep, my friend, if there is a risk of getting hit in the face and running into such a sickly scandal);
• bearded anecdotes that your grandfather hunted;
• army bikes (and why would she?).

You can strain in advance and remember some funny jokes. Funny stories from life are also suitable. Just let them be real rather than fictional.

Pay attention to your laughter. First, learn how to tell jokes so that you can finish them and not fall with hiccups and cramps in the middle of a monologue. Secondly, laughing too loudly is indecent. Not all girls like it when their boyfriend laughs like a horse with chronic bronchitis. Got the hint?

Create intrigue

This is the most interesting point. The girl always needs a little teasing and teasing. Your flirting should certainly arouse interest, so that she wants to get to know the interlocutor better. So do not post your entire biography in the first five minutes of the conversation.

You need to flirt with a girl in an unusual way. Imagine that you are in a bar, and a gorgeous beauty is sitting at the counter, turning every guy around. Here, the banal "hello, how are you, let's get to know each other" will not work. Most likely, a lady hears this every day and in huge quantities. You need to act surely so that the very one does not want to kick you off.

Just take it and sit beside her in silence. This gesture looks especially impressive when all the other chairs are not occupied by anyone. Instead of going straight to the girl, order a drink. And only for herself, for the time being it is too early to treat a woman, she did not deserve it. This is already quite daring, as the girl begins to wonder why "this guy" is not trying to get to know each other like the others. And then generally start doing something incomprehensible. For example, draw in a notebook while looking at your neighbor.

The girl will certainly be interested in such an action. He might even try to sneak a sneak peek into your notebook. Make these sheets visible only to you. When the lady asks what her forced bar neighbor is doing, say that you are an ornithologist (google for help) and decided to sketch a bird of the highest flight that I have just met. Here's a reason for dating. And leave the cutting of circles near the woman with protruding tongues to the young boys.

Feeling safe

To understand how to flirt with a girl correctly, it is imperative to imagine yourself in her place. What do you think, is it pleasant for a person to be undressed with his eyes or openly trying to touch him? A woman will definitely not like such flirting. And she also begins to feel uncomfortable, because she does not know what to expect from such a man.

It is possible to interest a girl and bring her to a romantic conversation only when she feels completely safe. Therefore, you should not make eyes at the lady on the street at a late hour. Just look, she will throw off her heels and run away from a potential maniac.

Don't hint at sex when you first meet. Even if the girl immediately likes you and she decides that “why not,” the opinion will change dramatically under pressure. Many ladies do not like it when a man touches on a similar topic. It's better to do sex after all, and not talk about it incessantly.

What not to do

And here's a final stop-list for you, which I made based on my own opinion and the experience of all the girls I know. What not to do when flirting with the fair sex:

• behave indecently (chew gum loudly, chomp, sniff, blow your nose and spit on the ground);
• swear at every word;
• let go of your hands and try to touch for all the beautiful places;
• want to splurge about your wealth (looks pitiful and stupid);
• talk only about yourself, not letting the woman insert a word;
• be a boring bore;
• morally pressure on the interlocutor;
• turn intrigue into a real insoluble puzzle (no one wants to feel stupid);
• focus on the girl's shortcomings and joke about it;
• be too malicious and sarcastic;
• send;
• violate personal boundaries when you were made explicitly aware that this is unacceptable at the moment;
• be rude in case of refusal to stir up here and now;
• too open to flatter.

Follow all these rules, and meeting girls will be much easier than you always thought. In fact, we are all living beings and we want a little attention to our own person. It is possible and necessary to flirt with women. The main thing is to know how to do it correctly. Good luck!