2023 Author: Katelyn Chandter | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-05-21 13:08
What's the problem with good people who always try to be nice and nice? In what they are considered to be soft-bodied weaklings. Life is such that by trying to be good with everyone, we lose our authenticity, we lose our credibility and we lose opportunities. How to stop being dependable and kind?
"If you think well of yourself, why do you need someone else to think well of you." Psychiatrist and Candidate of Medical Sciences Mikhail Litvak
They tell us all the time to be good and educate us as slaves of society. You cannot conflict, go against everyone, be selfish, refuse requests, upset other people, play against the rules, stand out, declare your desires and be different.
As a result, many people try to be correct from the point of view of society, so as not to be black sheep. We try to be good with everyone so that everyone likes and loves us. What will other people think? What will they say? How will I look in the eyes of society? How to avoid condemnation and gossip?
But the most ridiculous and stupid thing is different. By trying to be kind, we fall into the category of those whom everyone considers to be simpletons and weaklings.
How to stop being kind? Be not comfortable, not soft and not trouble-free, but be not yourself. Ignore the complaints of those who want to see you the old weakling. “You have changed” - those who are used to sitting on your neck will say. But not responsible for their expectations and rolled lip.
Don't trade your authenticity for approval. Be yourself if you want well-being, happiness and fulfillment of desires.