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2023 Author: Katelyn Chandter | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-05-21 13:08
More recently, the mere thought of a loved one stirred the blood and pleasantly spread warmth throughout the body. The heart began to beat faster, and the breath was interrupted with excitement. I wanted to be together forever, next to me, not to let go of my hand. Waking up at night, you intuitively fumbled around the bed in search of your beloved girl.
The peak of passions has passed, the release of hormones "high" began to decrease, and the halo over the head of a loved one has irrevocably sunk into summer.
Messages in instant messengers stopped pouring in an endless stream, both of you stopped glaring at the phone while waiting for a call.
It seems that everything is like everyone else's and the relationship continues to develop according to the well-known life scenario, passing from the stage of the candy-bouquet period to the stage of maturity. And this is normal, nothing special about it.
All couples go through a similar scenario for the development of relationships. But sometimes it happens that one of the partners, trying to sort out his feelings, pauses the relationship, and sometimes even offers to live separately.
Taking a break from a relationship - myth or reality? An excuse for the beginning of the end, or a desire to save a relationship when it cracked invisibly?
In this article, we will understand what it means to take a break in a relationship, who needs it in a couple, and what such a vacation can lead to. We will also consider the reasons why both partners may have such a desire.
Reasons why you want to take a break
1. Gone in love
So, you played enough with the girl in love, satiated with the sweet feeling of falling in love, received passionate, hot sex from her, and suddenly realized that now you finally want peace, tranquility and … her absence by my side.
Why it happens?
It's not a secret for anyone that when we fall in love, our "roof" just blows. The object of love is the most ideal person on the planet! Hormones of "love", thrown into the blood in large doses, drive us crazy. We can neither eat nor sleep, and we feel great. In this case, a person lives at the peak of his capabilities. Falling in love is dope. Nature is so arranged that this state cannot last long. Agree, a person who does not eat, does not sleep, moreover, is on the rise, as if having drunk a bucket of energy, will not last long. The physical body will fail and illness (at best) occurs.
Therefore, nature protects us from the all-destructive feeling of falling in love. And that same love in a couple of months begins to decline.
Sometimes (most often a man), after a decline in hormones, begins to realize that he did not love the girl at all. Trying to accurately convey to her that he wants to pause the relationship in order to understand himself, the man is accused of using her as a scoundrel and a scoundrel!
Although the man, in fact, did not deceive her. It actually seemed to him that he loved her, and was ready to take her to the edge of the universe!
Thus, one of the reasons why a man wants to take a break from a woman in a relationship is the drop in hormone levels.
Yes, no matter how scary it may sound, but having another woman is one of the most compelling reasons why a man wants to take a break from his real partner.
Sometimes a man in this way "teaches" a woman to start learning to live without him and to manage on her own.
When a man feels that he is psychologically uncomfortable with a particular girl, he begins to distance himself from her. A girl, feeling a chill in a relationship, begins to get nervous about this, arrange a showdown for her beloved, take out his brain, try to find out the reason for this very “chill”.
The man, in turn, who is no longer eager to spend time together, tries to find a way to avoid the consequences of the heavy artillery launched from the lady, and invites her to take a break.
So the mistress (to whom he, most likely, was going to leave) is one of the reasons for such a man's behavior.
3. Relationship crisis
A crisis in a relationship is a normal and natural phenomenon, it is usually viewed as the next stage in the development of relationships.
Psychologists distinguish between different "ages" of relationship crisis, and often disagree.
If you look deeply, it becomes obvious that a crisis in a relationship is often provoked by one partner in a pair (less often both at the same time), and is usually associated with a midlife crisis or some other crisis in life.
In the life of every person, sometimes not the best periods come. All areas suffer - family, career, health. It seems that you are devastated, there is no energy at all, and nothing pleases.
Living such periods of life, we expect that a loved one will fill us with their energy and love. Although a loved one at the same time may himself need our support and help. In such cases, discord in the relationship begins.
It seems that the partner is a stranger to us, does not hear and does not understand us. There is a desire to take a break in the relationship.
If you are in just such a situation, do not try to chop off the shoulder and blame your partner. Look around, maybe your loved one is now much more in need of help than yourself.
Talk to him (her), think about what you can do in this situation. Perhaps the crisis will unite you together, rather than tear you apart.
The girl suggested that you take a break from the relationship
What a twist! As a rule, such sentences from girls' lips can be heard much less often than from men.
This is a great hit on men's self-esteem, and is a wake-up call in a relationship.
Why might a girl suggest you take a break?
There are two reasons, moreover, diametrically opposite.
1. She loves you and thus tries to test your feelings. Yes, the ultimatum, sounding decisive and bold, makes you think …
What to think about? Most likely about your behavior. Remember where you screwed up. Analyze what exactly she wants from you, perhaps you did not fulfill some promise given to her a long time ago. Maybe you promised to marry her, but the wedding ring is still not on her finger? Think about it. The answer is most likely on the surface.
2. The second reason is that they really don't want you anymore. They don't want to see every day, they don't want to hear, they don't want to sleep with you! Why?
The answer, again, lies on the surface - you either behaved somehow wrongly, which caused disgust towards yourself (beat her, abused alcohol, humiliated, cheated), or she fell in love with another who gave her mountains of gold, a star, the Universe, the Moon or something else there.
If she fell in love with another and even slept with him (oh, God), then your chances of keeping her next to you tend to zero, because girls first fall in love, and only then open access to the body (we are now talking about decent ladies). Therefore, if she cheated on you physically, it means that she cheated on you morally a long time ago, and most likely no longer loves you.
You have two options - to understand, forgive and fight for her, and the second option is to let her go into a new relationship.
Remember, women are much less likely to offer a break from each other in a relationship than men.
Break in a relationship. Options for the development of events
Plain and simple. There are two options for the development of events, and they usually depend on the reasons for that very pause in the relationship.
Either you both understand that you cannot live without each other, and you are starting a new honeymoon, or you both understand that the relationship has become obsolete, and it is worth parting, opening your heart to new love and new relationships in which there will be no desire to take a break from loved one …