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2023 Author: Katelyn Chandter | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-05-21 13:08
Fears make a person unhappy, and the ability to take risks makes a person happy. In youth and in older years, we are always afraid of something. As a result, a person is content with little, although he could achieve much more. How to stop being afraid of everything?
I always use one method that helps in difficult situations. When I'm lazy, afraid, or don't know what to do, I use this method. Sit down and picture yourself as a 90-year-old man. You are 9 dozen. You sit in a rocking chair by the fireplace and remember your past. You are tired, wise and worn out by life. All the most interesting, exciting and best are already behind you for a long time. Introduced? What do you feel?
You remember who you loved, who you worked with, what you did, who you were friends with, where you went, what you were fond of, what you aspired to and what you dreamed of. You are already with one foot in the next world, and death is breathing down your back. What will you think about at this moment?
You will not care about the things around you. You will not think that you had a cool iPhone or branded clothes. That you worked hard and stayed up late. That you were running after money, wasting your life on alcohol, doing nonsense or idleness.
You will think about regretting something completely different. You will remember love, dates, friends, loved ones, travel and impressions. You will think about people with whom it was very good and things that amazed you.
But most of all, you will think about the missed opportunities and chances. About those who, because of fear, laziness or stupidity, missed. The most bitter regrets are not that we did something and were wrong. The most bitter regrets are that we have never tasted.
You didn't dare to do something important at the right time. You didn’t quit your unloved job, didn’t leave for another city, didn’t try to get a new specialty, didn’t confess your feelings for the girl you liked, didn’t risk something important, threw an interesting business or betrayed your dreams.
You will be sitting in a rocking chair at 90 and you will hate yourself. You will despise your cowardice, weakness, cowardice, laziness, narrow-mindedness and short-sightedness. You will think what would have happened if you had taken a chance and tried. But miracles do not happen, and you will soon die without having tasted your dream.
At 90, only bitter regrets remain.
How to stop being afraid of everything?
Writer and journalist Hunter Thompson, best known as the author of Fear and Loathing in Las Vegas, once came up with a quote that stuck forever in my memory.
“Life should be a journey to the grave, not with the intention of arriving safe and in a beautiful, well-preserved body, but rather to drive in with a skid, in clouds of smoke, completely exhausted and worn out, loudly proclaiming -“This is a trip!”
Now imagine that you are being given a 90-year-old to use a time machine, but only once. You can go back to the past, to your present 20-30-40 years. Now you are returning to the age in which you are now.
You are not 90 years old, but you have a second chance to spend your life differently. When a person is given a second chance to start life anew, he no longer doubts and is not afraid. All the same, we will all die, and therefore there is nothing to be afraid of.
When you mentally return from your 90th birthday, there is no more indecision, fear and laziness. Approach the girl you like, go to another country, grab opportunities, take risks, achieve goals, go to dreams.
When I'm afraid of something, I imagine myself as 90 years old. It has always helped me. In work, business, love and life. Are you still afraid of something? Try to imagine yourself as a 90-year-old man. After this fear and laziness, zero.