2023 Author: Katelyn Chandter | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-05-21 13:08
What's the most common way to manipulate you, your actions, and your emotions? How are you being manipulated by a girl, colleagues, friends, relatives, acquaintances and just strangers? Feelings of guilt and remorse are common to many people, especially good ones. But you are not responsible for the feelings of other people. I cannot say no, because the person will be upset.
I cannot help but help, otherwise they will think badly of me.
I cannot leave a girl with whom a bad relationship, because she will suffer.
I can't refuse to go somewhere so as not to offend anyone, although I don't want to.
I can't help doing what the girl said or wants, otherwise she will be offended.
I can't help but do what other people want, because they will be upset.
I cannot help lending money, otherwise they will be offended or will consider me a curmudgeon.
Are you often upset that you are causing other people moral suffering or anxiety? This is especially true for positive and good people. But you don't understand one thing. You are not responsible for the feelings and emotions of other people, and you are being bluntly manipulated.
Don't get it wrong. You are responsible for your actions and deeds. You have to keep your promises and your moral obligations, but nothing more.
Often, those around you seem to make fun of you and your desires. They decide to take offense at your actions, shackling your hands. You cannot make any other decision than the one that the manipulator offers you.
Guilt is manipulating you. If you do not do as the other person wants, then you are "a scoundrel and a scoundrel." You will cause them pain and moral suffering. Although you only made a decision according to your desires. You are deprived of the freedom to choose which you have the right.
But no matter how hard you try, you won't be good to everyone. You have the right to make decisions based on your own interests, desires and plans for life. You are not responsible for how a person will act with your choice. It is not your fault that the person does not feel very well as a result of rejection.
You don't have to make decisions based on what other people feel or think. You are not responsible for the feelings of other people. Don't let other people manipulate you.
Do what you want, you deem necessary and right.