Formation of adequate self-esteem

2023 Author: Katelyn Chandter | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-05-21 13:08

Adequate self-esteem in those people who are happy, successful and able to realize themselves 100%. And how are you? A person is unlucky in life when he does not have correct self-esteem. Low self-esteem does not give you the opportunity to get everything that you deserve by right. High self-esteem interferes with achieving goals when you repeatedly suffer defeat in life.

If you are reading this article, then you have some difficulties in life. You can't do everything you want. Dreams and goals remain unfulfilled, and all plans collapse. Why can't you become happy and successful? A prosperous life is given to those people who know how to realize themselves. And this requires harmony inside and outside.

“The world doesn't care about your self-esteem. Life will require you to finish the job BEFORE you feel confident. " American entrepreneur and public figure Bill Gates

When you don't know where to start changing your life, then start forming an adequate self-esteem. It is she who is responsible for evaluating her qualities and feelings. As you present your personality, so it will act.

There are three types of self-esteem in total: underestimated, adequate and overestimated. I bet you have either the first or the third. Otherwise, why is everything going the devil knows how?

How to define self-esteem? Test

To form adequate self-esteem, you need to better understand yourself. Sometimes it is difficult to answer honestly to questions, but it is also stupid to lie to yourself. Determine your level of self-esteem. How adequate are you? Self-assessment test.

1. How do you react to criticism from other people?

• You are hurt by the words of the person that you want to shout at him or hit him. You do not tolerate someone else's opinion, which does not coincide with yours. Most likely your self-esteem is low.
• You don’t listen to other people's criticism and you don’t care about it from the high bell tower? Aren't you interested in someone else's opinion? You have high self-esteem, and you urgently need correction for more adequate self-esteem.
• Do you listen to criticism and try to find constructive notes in it? It is useful to listen to someone else's opinion, but it is important to separate constructive words from someone else's subjective opinion. This is the behavior of a person with adequate self-esteem.

2. How do you react to other people's praise?

• Is someone else's opinion very important to you and how do you look in their eyes? Are you carefully waiting for the approval of others, waiting for praise and parting words? Are you afraid to do something so that people do not speak badly and try to be good for everyone? This is definitely low self-esteem.
• You smugly bathe in praise, and when they don't praise you, do you think everyone around you is idiots? Do you demand praise from others when they are in no hurry to do it? This is an inflated self-esteem.
• You take the praise calmly, accepting it as fact, but no more. This is an adequate and correct self-assessment.

3. How do you perceive yourself?

Do you admit that you are a loser who is not capable of anything? You have no reason to be proud of yourself, but do you treat yourself badly? Nobody needs you and you are not good for anything? Do you have no prospects and chances to change your life? Every cricket know your six? Nothing depends on you and life is over? This is low self-esteem. You urgently need to start building adequate self-esteem.

Do you work half-heartedly, try barely, fantasize about millions and wait for the jackpot of fate just now? You want too much, but you put in little effort. Do you think that you are a genius who was not appreciated by descendants? Everyone owes you, even if you haven't done anything special? Should everyone rush around you, constantly help and take care of you? Do you consider yourself the navel of the earth when people around you think you are an egoist and a narcissist? Deserves more, but you don’t do anything for it? You have high self-esteem.

You don't consider yourself a failure or a genius. You believe that everything depends on you, and not on the circumstances. Nobody will build your happiness for you. You understand what you have to do and try yourself. You are ready to put in effort and fight for your future. But you don't give up like people with low self-esteem. You are not expecting a gift from fate, as a person with high self-esteem. You work hard every day and move towards your goal. This is adequate self-esteem.

Formation of adequate self-esteem from overestimated

Learn to look at yourself critically from the outside. What are your weaknesses and weaknesses? How realistic are your goals? What is the ratio of desires and real abilities? Do you demand what you have not yet deserved and not worthy?

Be open to new ideas, experiences and opportunities. Don't throw it all away just because you're new to it. The world is constantly changing and there is nothing unusual about the changes.

Take criticism calmly if it is grounded. Know how to admit your mistakes when you are wrong. There is no need to take everything with hostility at once. Listen calmly, analyze and take action if required.

Are you passing off your weaknesses as strengths? Taking insolence for decisiveness, stubbornness for perseverance, arrogance for leadership? Be more impartial with yourself.

Accept life and the world as they are. If the world is angry and unfair to you, then be more adequate. Nothing happens in the world just like that. If something does not work out, then you are not ready enough to win. "There is no reason to blame the mirror if the face is crooked." Do not blame the surrounding world, circumstances and people for all problems. Look in yourself for what prevents you from winning.

Formation of adequate self-esteem from underestimated

"Know your worth and do not sell yourself for less than you are worth, otherwise you will turn into a discounted product." Estonian writer and psychologist Luule Viilma

Are you being overly cautious, indecisive, and humble? Maybe it's time to become more confident, courageous and determined? Shyness and insecurity creates even more problems than before.

Are you too demanding of yourself, suffering from perfectionism? Maybe you make increased demands on yourself, blaming yourself for a minor oversight or failure? Stop this self-torture.

Suffering from low self-esteem, are you trying to prove your toughness to your detriment? Do you make mistakes and weird things while trying to assert yourself? Show your coolness on social networks and in life by buying items for show-off.

How much control do you have in your life? Are you trying to shift all responsibility for everything that happens to other people and circumstances? It's easy to blame the crisis, the people and the government. It's time to accept the fact that only you can change your life. Change depends only on you.

Find a way to fulfill yourself in life. Set goals and dreams and then achieve them. Celebrate your every victory and achievement. You're not that bad already. You're good, you just don't believe yourself to the end. You are much better, smarter and stronger than you think.

The formation of adequate self-esteem is the most important factor in a successful life. Only adequate self-esteem helps to fully open up, achieve your goals and become happy.