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2023 Author: Katelyn Chandter | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-05-21 13:08
You can read smart books all your life, work hard, do important things, go to the gym, do only the right things, try hard and dress beautifully. But you will still not be good enough in the opinion of others and yourself. It often happens in life that you are disappointed in yourself.
A bad day, an unpleasant event, a conflict, a dropped word, or any minor nuisance can lead to a breakdown at the peak. You don't feel smart enough, talented enough, talented enough, and not good enough for the world.
Self-flagellation and low self-esteem are commonplace for a modern person. We easily succumb to the opinions of others, the influence of gossip, adjustment to standards, an outside perspective, criticism of envy and fear of being different. But who said you weren't good enough? Inadequate society, surrounding critics or questionable standards?
Sometimes it seems that everything in the world is better than you. They have everything, and you have nothing. They have a beautiful and attractive appearance. Highly paid and promising job. Luxurious and large apartment. An expensive and respectable car. Branded and chic items. Beautiful wife and family with children. Photos from vacation at sea. They enjoy life when you survive.
At this moment, you begin to subconsciously compare yourself with these people. You feel that you are lower in the hierarchy of the social ladder. And that means worse, dumber, uglier, weaker, more unlucky. I'm not good enough like everyone else. Such thoughts make their way into the head, and then imperceptibly undermine the mood, strength and faith in oneself.
When other people are enjoying the good life, it is tempting to be like them. At such a moment, we begin to copy those who are more successful and fortunate. We start to imitate, demonstrate a beautiful life on social networks, buy expensive things, get into loans, do dubious things and imitate happiness. But we are quickly disappointed, seeing the futility of efforts.
Am I not good enough? I'm good enough
1. Stop comparing
Comparison is a road to nowhere. You're good enough for yourself, and that's the main thing. First, learn to value yourself. Accept that each person is unique and not a copy of the others. You are special who has your thoughts, your talents, your abilities and your uniqueness. You can consider yourself not good enough, but you can develop your uniqueness and talents. Other people may have different values and underestimate your life, but why should an outside opinion care? More important is how you relate to your life and changes in it. Realize yourself as a unique person with special abilities and talents. Learn to feel comfortable in your body and your personality.
2. Consider your dreams
When you feel not good enough for this world, then think about yourself. What makes you think so? Are you dissatisfied with something, something didn't work out, or something went wrong? Have you thrown your dreams on the shelf? It is important to work on your dreams, goals and plans, whatever they might be. Do not pretend that you are not interested in something, but look for ways to translate into reality. Don't tackle something that doesn't make sense and is not feasible. Why waste energy, nerves and time? Choose real dreams and achievable goals.
3. Find mates and build a personal life
Am I not good enough? Or alone? Sometimes you just need to surround yourself with good friends, like-minded people, a soul mate. When you are alone, you begin to cook in the compote of your own doubts, complexes, resentments, depression. Find those people with whom you are good and interesting. Who has a similar spirit, aspirations and dreams. Who makes your mood better and your smile wider.
4. Move forward every day
Endure or enjoy life? You lack dynamics and changes in a stagnant life. You need personal development and movement. It can take any form of education, courses, books and training. You need real movement in life. Make sure you do what you want the most. That it brings satisfaction and happiness. Move forward every day towards your goals. Happiness is not the end point, but the very beauty of the road.
Sometimes it seems that you are not good for anything. I'm not good enough for this life and the world. But psychologists say that 80% of people think so. Stop comparing and find your uniqueness. Find your environment and those with whom you are good. Find your dreams and goals, and then go towards them. You are good enough to live happily and find your own path.