When life and everything around us are not satisfied, we decide to give a new start to our dreams. But how many times have our plans been thwarted and nothing good has come of it? How to start a new life correctly?
How many times have we told ourselves that we are ready to start life from scratch? And how many times have we had to postpone these plans, or have they been thwarted?
The point is that when planning for the future, we make mistakes that negate good intentions. How do you “start” correctly?
First, define your goals and objectives. Ask yourself why you want to become a different person. Maybe you want to change only one thing in yourself, say, lose weight or change your profession, and leave everything else as it is?
But more often than not, thoughts of "starting from scratch" visit a person when he is not satisfied with several aspects of life at once. Here we will deal with them.
Health. Few have everything in perfect order with their health. Someone is not satisfied with the figure, someone does not feel well, someone cannot decide to go to a doctor with their sores and endures to the last … fitness center or to doctors of the appropriate profile. You should not set yourself "elephant" tasks such as treating all ailments at once. You simply will not find the time for this and will postpone it over and over again.
Nutrition. If you suspect that your problems are related to unhealthy diet, try "healthier". This does not mean that you should definitely go on a rigid diet, which you will break anyway. It is enough to replace some products in the diet with others or exclude one thing from it - for example, baked goods. And, of course, more fruits and vegetables!
Job. For years, many people dream of changing jobs that do not suit them, but this remains just a dream. Often they do not even look for new options, and if they do, they quickly "fizzle out". First of all, you need to clearly imagine what kind of work you want to find. And already based on this, make plans. Maybe you will understand that in order to change jobs, you must first change your specialty, retrain. In this case, you should look for the appropriate educational institution or courses, and only when you have a diploma in your hands, start looking for a new place.
Ask yourself if the previous job really was that bad. And if you come to the conclusion that there is nothing to lose, start looking. Do not limit yourself to posting your resume on the Web and passively waiting for responses. Look for suitable vacancies yourself and send resumes to them. Also use other sources - for example, tell everyone you know that you are looking for a job. Then the chances of actually finding her will increase dramatically.
It also happens that you are not going to leave your current job, but dream of a promotion or increase in salary. In this case, you must first weigh your chances of success, and then go to the rug to the authorities. Sometimes we don't get what we want just because we never tried to get it …
Hobby. It happens that for complete happiness we lack some kind of outlet. We dream of being realized in some area, but we still lack the spirit to do it. Let's say you're going to take a foreign language course, learn to paint, or start collecting coins. First, decide how badly you want it. Then decide how much and what resources you are willing to spend on your hobby: free time, money, etc. If you hesitate between several hobbies, do not grab onto everything at once, choose what is most important to you, what is more attracted to. Otherwise, you will quit as soon as you start. As they say, if you chase two hares, you won't catch a single one. If your dream is to travel, it is best to start small - traveling somewhere for just a few days. Too global plans, for example, hitchhiking across Europe, may remain plans.
Personal life. Here, of course, it is quite difficult to make plans, since everything depends not only on you. But you can make some attempts. For example, if you are single, you can start by posting a profile on a dating site. If you have long been going to end a relationship that has exhausted itself, then maybe one conversation, a phone call or a letter will be enough to do this? If your relationship is in a state of uncertainty, try to clear things up.
In almost all cases, starting something new and unusual for us means leaving our zone of psychological comfort, if not completely, then at least partially. That is why we so often delay the implementation of our plans.
Our main mistake is that we are building Napoleonic plans "on all fronts", and then we cannot find the strength to start carrying them out due to too many points. The surest way to really change your life for the better is to do it one step at a time. Pick one thing that is most important to you, and move in that direction. As soon as this point is completed, proceed to the next most important task. Etc. Remember that great things are born out of small things!
