The vast majority of people only want something, never getting what they want. It's time to ask yourself another question: "What can you do?" How to set goals, make plans and follow your dreams.
How do most of us think? A person has a desire for something, and he says to himself: "I want this and that" or "I want this and that to come true." Consider the formulation itself, how and how desire is expressed.
I want - "want" is not a manifestation of power. This is a manifestation of desire.
A person with the word "I want" affirms and confirms, that is, he drives into his reality that he does not have what he wants. The same applies to words such as "necessary, desirable" and so on. For example, a person says, "I need money." By this he claims that he has no money. He drives absence into his reality.
The word "to". Basically, the "would" particle is important here. As the Russian proverb says: “If only there were mushrooms growing in your mouth,” that is, then there was no need to think about food. A particle of "would" (not in general in speech, in thinking, but in the manifestation of desire) removes the desired, surrounds it with a bunch of conditions. It creates an opportunity, the likelihood that a wish will not come true. And the same applies to the word "if."
Hence, the word "come true" in its meaning turns into "come true". That is, whether it will be written on the water with a pitchfork or not.
But, we can say in another way: “Let it come true”, but all the same, by ordering a desire, we seem to carry it into the future. And it can always remain there in the future.
Before, I often asked myself: “What do you want? What do you need?”Until I realized that the question itself was fundamentally wrong, because no matter how I answered these questions, I was arguing that I didn’t have it. I hammered this absence into my reality with answers.
And then I began to ask myself another question: "What can you do?" And the vision of the world began to change. At first, I answered this question to myself, proceeding from considerations of my capabilities and circumstances. I correlated possibilities with reality. But, every time I answered myself: "I can do this and that." And it can be seen in the very word "mogu" there is strength. "I can" - power, power (from being able). No wonder the Russian language is considered figurative. And the image begins to manifest itself in reality. And over time, the main thing for me was simply “I can” without any “so-and-so”. The main thing was not the desire for something, but the action itself, the change in one's reality. And the very concept of "desire" began to disappear. After all, desire itself is a recognition, a statement that you do not have something. And since something is not there, you are not whole, incomplete. And instead of desires, an aspiration appeared … No, not even an aspiration. How can I explain this to you?
Let's take a situation, you walk with shoes on. And a small pebble falls into your shoes. It makes you uncomfortable walking. What are you doing? You take off your shoes, shake out the pebble and move on. Or you sit in one position for a long time during a movie session. Your muscles are numb, you become uncomfortable and you change the position of the body in the way that suits you. What do you do in these cases? Do you want convenience? No. In general, you don't even think about it. And by the way, you do not doubt a bit that you can take out a pebble or sit down more comfortably. It doesn't even occur to you. You just do it and that's it.
That's the same with me, instead of wanting and desires, I just started to remove the discomfort in my reality. And what brings comfort to my spiritual world began to manifest itself in my reality. And here many surprises awaited me. It turns out that much of what I wanted so badly turned out to be unnecessary. Like a dog's fifth leg. Moreover, if these desires of mine were realized, then, as I now understand, my life would become in many ways more confusing, more complicated and uncomfortable. And I would begin to desire something else or dream of getting rid of the results of my own desires. Desires are like a drum for a squirrel. The squirrel runs, runs, runs, but still remains in place. But she can get out of the drum and start really moving in space.
And again, since “I can” means “I am”. I am the real generator of the power shown in this world. When “I can” - I exist, it becomes a fact and reality is forced to reckon with me. When “I want” - I’m just going to exist, I’m not, as it were, and reality may not notice me. When "I can" - I am in one bundle with God and He begins to really help when something does not work out. After all, "I can," brings me to the "I am" here and now. And you begin to feel God everywhere, in yourself, in others, in the whole world. You become a co-creator, that is, you are together with the Creator. Now I say to myself: "I can do everything, except what my conscience forbids me, that is, God."
This is how my life changed when, instead of “I want”, I began to speak and think “I can”. “I want” is an empty word leading nowhere, this word is a parasite in our minds. One "I want" produces an infinite number of "I want". They multiply like a virus, gradually replacing our essence. “I can” is the word of the Creator.
Actually, we are back to what I wrote about earlier. To the boundaries - prohibitions in our minds. It is they who do not allow us to be able to. It is they who force us to say "I want" instead of "I can." So start saying to yourself “I can”, get used to this thought, to these words, and you will see how the world will begin to change around you. Albeit not immediately, but it will definitely start, as you get used to this outlook on life.
Since I started thinking "can", I have not thought about planning. At least as is usually done. Planning assumes all these “woulds” and “ifs”. But I try not to think so. You see, when you enter the “can” state, you will not have such questions.
I will try to explain it in a simpler way. Imagine here you and some object, the event for which you are striving. Namely, here, between him and you, are all these "if", "want", "would". It is they who take you away from this object, they switch your power from the object to themselves. And you begin to spend, albeit involuntarily, unconsciously, your power on them. And you begin to spend your power not on an object or event, but on a path to it. In the “can” state there is an object, an event and you, but between you there is only “can”. There is not even a path to it, the object is already with you. You just need to perform some action. The path to it is no longer perceived as a path.
Well, how to put it even easier? Here you come to the store to choose a TV, an expensive TV. You have the required amount at home. You choose a TV that suits you with the seller, the seller puts it aside for you, and you go home to get the money. And now you are at home. Stop! We seize this moment! You are at home, you don't have a TV set yet. But, at the same time, you already have it. He is in your feelings, thoughts. You already have it. And the path to the store is no longer perceived as a path to the object. You just go to get your thing. Because you have, the means, if you want the power, that makes this unconditionally possible - money. In the same way, "I can" is that necessary force, that sensation, perception of the world, which makes any object, event already yours.
And yet, from the state of "I can" you will better understand: do you need what you are striving for? Because, often people confuse the desire for something, with the object itself, and when they achieve this, they do not know what to do with it. It turns out they didn't need him. And in the “can” state, you already have this object in your perception and can objectively evaluate it and decide: do you need it or not?