During the period of dating and active search, I talk a lot with my girlfriends about the "ideal man". Women, in search of the perfect prince, highlight the most important qualities of a man.
The desire to have fun, honesty with oneself and others, the ability not to make a tragedy out of the mushroom, and the thirst to be a “perpetual motor”. The author lists the necessary qualities of a man of dreams.
As usual in the period of dating and active search, I talk a lot with my girlfriends about the "ideal man". Like, this is what kind of a magic prince I need so that I say "ah, I take it!" and did not find fault with the cleanliness of the shoes. I thought for a long time and, finally, I identified three qualities that are most important for me today.
Unbelievable but true. First of all, I expect lightness from my partner. Ability to look at things positively. Ability not to slide into hysterics or panic in a problem situation, but to switch, for example, to the game format. Or an exciting solution to a complex problem. Or just laugh at the old joke. In a word, do not escalate.
Because I myself am very good at pumping, hysteria and panic. But in order for me to stop doing this and switch to constructive mode, it would be good if the person nearby was not inclined to make a tragedy out of g … well, let it be a tragedy out of the mushroom. Well, you get the idea.
By lightness, I also mean the ability and desire to have fun. Because, again, to sit for two weeks, loading myself with work and not getting up from a chair, I can do it alone. It works out great for me. But pulling myself by the tail for a walk and indulge in it turns out worse for me. I would delegate if possible:)
I am not an idealist, and I perfectly understand that “everyone is lying”. Out of politeness, out of a desire to be good, out of fear, or just for the sake of a catchphrase. But there are lies and lies. In a sense, I will not climb on phones and e-mails: just out of love for myself and the ecology of the process. I will not sniff shirts and search for traces of crime with a magnifying glass. I'm disgusted.
But if I understand that they are lying to me in a big way, then I will hardly continue to waste my time on a person. And it doesn't matter if it's about goals in life, income level or relationships with parents. Moreover, no less than honesty with me, the honesty of a person with himself is important to me. Does he really know what he wants? Or, theoretically, he wants one thing, but puts his strength into something completely different (that is, in fact, he is lying to himself)? And then he lamented for a long time and loudly about "ni-pa-lu-chi-moos." Brrr…. Sorry, I remembered something))
By the way, this very honesty - with myself and with others - for me is very close to reliability. Because it is precisely such a person that you want and can rely on (and without this, what the hell is a pairing even for half an hour?)
Most of my relationships, I pulled out on my ebullient energy. Next to me - well, why flirt there - quite often turned out to be dull mumbles, preferring to prop up the wall in companies, so as not to fall or sit quietly in the corner. Therefore, I got to light and enchant. It was such an honorable duty to be the engine of progress, the energy of the process and other perpetual motion machine. And I always understood that if I didn't smile, organize a party, invite guests, set the table and come up with travels, then nothing would happen. No laughter in the house, no parties, no guests, no feasts, no travel.
For a long time I even enjoyed it. But somehow I discovered that a house cannot be built with one wall. And that any tasks are easier to solve together. Therefore, I thought that I would be glad to delegate a little of this drive to my partner. And see what happens.