We are always trying to force our mind to row against the current. Don't stop your life from going with the flow, and you will see how much easier it became for you.
Observe, for at least one day, how your mind tries to row against the current. You are offered something, but you refuse. They are trying to tell you something, but you brush it off. Someone expresses their point of view, and you argue. Someone does it in their own way, and you instruct him on the right path. You are offered a solution, but you object. You wait for one thing, but you get another and express dissatisfaction. Someone bothers you, and you are furious. Something goes against your script, and you rush into a frontal attack to direct the current in the right direction.
Change tactics: shift your center of gravity from control to observation. No need to hit the water with your hands. Don't stop your life from going with the flow, and you will see how much easier it became for you.
The human mind works like a calculating machine, it tries to calculate all the moves in advance and draw up its own plan of action. The mind rarely manages to find an optimal solution, since there are too many unknowns in the problem, and besides, the situation changes along the way. But he stubbornly insists on his script, in other words, rowing against the tide.
As a result, a lot of energy is wasted, and the number of problems and obstacles increases. The mind seeks to control not its own movement with the flow, but the flow itself. This is one of the main problems and troubles. Strive to observe rather than control. Do not rush to dismiss, object, argue, prove your own, interfere, manage, criticize.
Give the situation a chance without your active intervention or opposition.
By giving up control, you gain even more control over the situation than you had before.
