Many women complain that they are not given flowers, they love little, they do not give compliments and do not help. The point is the inability of women themselves to communicate with men. A must-read for girls, girls, women.
From a series about the relationship between Barack and Michelle Obama, Henry Ford and his wife, in general about how women influence their men. I am a man and I completely agree with this article.
It can also be called: "Man, instructions for use"
“To inspire a man means to“breathe”desire into him. The desire to grow, develop, the desire to work, earn money, the desire to get married, buy a house, the desire to have children, the desire to be devoted to his wife, and so on … The question of inspiration for her beloved husband worries so many women. And this is understandable, because many of us want to see our husbands successful and fulfilled, full of fire and enthusiasm. To inspire him for flowers, compliments and gifts - not on holidays, but just like that. Just that, walking home from work, remembering us, he suddenly went to a flower shop to surprise him with a beautiful bouquet … Is this possible? Of course! With any man? Absolutely!
Earlier I heard the excuse of some men, they say “I don’t give flowers to women on principle”. Why, they could not explain. After only a while, I realized that they were not inspired by these women. In the soul of every man lives a romantic, even the most serious, even the most businesslike, even the most principled. To make a woman happy is the natural program that governs every male! A man cannot do something for himself, he does not feel pleasure from this, because his emotional field is not as wide as that of a woman.
The emotions of a woman are what excites the mind of a man and kindles an inner fire. Emotions are the energy a man rides on. The higher and better the emotions of the woman who feeds him, the better the man will “go” through life. If emotions are of poor quality, then the movement of a man, like a car, into which cheap gasoline has been poured, will be short-lived, or even a failure in the system will occur, and the engine will refuse to work. Therefore, the phrase “I don’t give flowers to women in principle” is spoken only by men who have never been inspired, those who were not lucky enough to meet a true woman in their lives!
In fact, the question of inspiration is not as difficult as it might seem at first glance. Through personal experience, I have identified several points that a woman must observe in order to inspire her dear husband for the exploits!
1. Be beautiful
2. Be inspired by yourself
3. Give a man pleasure
4. Give a man positive emotions, be a source of happiness
5. Do not do a man's work and do not appear as a man
Beauty is a great power that inspires a man very much. Appearance is the first thing a man looks at when meeting a woman. If his appearance does not intrigue him, the man will not want to deepen the relationship. Being beautiful is one of the honorable duties of a great woman. Without taking this rule into account, quality inspiration will not work. A man is very inspired by female beauty! It is difficult to be a lazy person next to the home Goddess, and it is completely uncomfortable to be a parasite next to a friendly wife who wears jewelry and a beautiful hairstyle.
To inspire, you need to be a Muse. Is there a Muses grumpy, touchy, in gray pants and in a stretched T-shirt?.. Rather, on the contrary, Muses are very beautiful creatures, very smiling, very in love with the one they inspire, very trusting in him. And very much able to enjoy life! Enjoy the aroma of fragrant soap, savor the sweet cherry from the cake, enjoy the kisses and the warm wind … there is so much beauty in life to enjoy! And the Muse constantly fills herself, absorbing the beauty of the world through enjoying it …
And it is such an energetically filled woman, beautiful and happy, who can easily inspire a man to heroic deeds, without doing anything special! She just is next to the man. In love with him and the beauty of the world. She just is. He will do the rest himself!.. It is impossible to inspire a man neither with tears, nor reproaches, nor offenses. The only thing that can be inspired by such behavior is to get divorced! And if a woman gets what she wants with such gross manipulations, it only shows her unfemininity and lack of inspiration. Begged, cried. Men can't stand women's tears, that's why they are ready to buy everything for us and agree with everything, if only we would calm down. But is there any value in this?.. No … But when you inspire him with your beauty, your love, your fullness, this is a completely different feeling!
A woman should be inspired by herself. She should be interested in being alone with herself, she should have exciting activities, hobbies. Only surely female! ? If you don't know how to get high on yourself, don't know how to be happy and entertain yourself, for example, with dancing, meditation, walks, bachelorette parties, then where will you get the energy of inspiration for your beloved husband?..
Give a man pleasure
Pleasure can be on two levels: subtle and gross. Gross refers to physical contact, such as having sex, massage, touching. And to the subtle: a smile, affectionate words, positive emotions, happy laughter, flirting, coquetry …
Some women complain that their men are "preoccupied" with the issue of sex, they are constantly harassing. This can happen when the wife does not give her husband subtle pleasures. A man needs fuel in the form of feminine energy. But you can get it in different ways, not necessarily through sex. A woman can fill a man through a kiss, through affectionate words, touching and so on …
But, if a woman is not inspired by herself, and if her female center is blocked, then there will be problems with the return of pleasure … You need to increase female hormones in your body through female affairs, through eating sweet food, through communication with her Goddess and wearing feminine clothes, as well as through nourishing yourself with positive emotions from the contemplation of the beautiful.
Give a man positive emotions, be a source of happiness
The wife should be a source of joy for her husband, a source of good news. This forms in the subconscious of a man the most pleasant associations associated with you, then he will always strive for you as a source of inexhaustible warmth and light. Try not to tell him bad news or overwhelm him with your often changing moods. Yes, a woman has the right to be listened to by a man, so that he consoles her, regrets her, but do not go too far. There are already so many problems in the world, so many difficult tasks that a man has to face, and if at home he also sees his wife's sour face, dissatisfied with something or hears negative information from her, this will obviously cause him sympathy, will not. It's another matter when the whole world talks about bad things from your lips - it hears only pleasant, only inspiring words! Can you imagine what kind of precious diamond you can become for your man in this case?..
For a man's psyche, it is very important, having come after work, to see a beautiful smiling wife at home, speaking affectionate words (even if he was late). One gentle look of a loving wife, one gentle touch, a kind affectionate word, are able to relieve all his worries and fatigue, grant peace and happiness, and a man has a subconscious strong desire to return to this apartment, where he is expected, loved and greeted with joy.
Do not do a man's work and do not appear as a man
To be an inspiration wife, you need to avoid any activity that contradicts your femininity. Well, for example, a woman asked a man to move the closet. But men, as a rule, do not immediately respond to a woman's request. He first needs to get out of his thoughts, ponder the words of his wife, make a decision, complete the case, and only then carry out the assignment. A man rarely immediately runs to do what he was asked to do, and this is normal. But then the wife asked, and the husband continued to click the remote control in front of the TV. She asked a second time, and a third, but there was no reaction. And here there are two options for the development of events. First: unfeminine. Go and, having strained yourself, move the closet yourself, and then be sure to throw a scandal for my husband for being a parasite, or just take a deep offense at him and walk gloomy like a cloud all day.
And the second option: feminine. Having made a request to her husband, leave him to think it over. Do not jerk every five minutes, but go about your business … Sooner or later, but the man will move the closet. Do you know when men move wardrobes? In two cases. The first, and it should always be like this: whenever they want! And the second: when forced … The woman voices the request and leaves. If a man immediately goes to carry it out, he feels like a podobluchnik "I was forced." Therefore, he is playing for time. So that she forgot about the request, and I, like, decided to move the cabinet myself, went and moved it. These are the men they are, and you need to know and respect this.
That is, the first option - to do men's affairs myself - is contrary to the female nature, and therefore does not cause inspiration. If you want to prove something to a man and do a defiantly male work in front of him yourself, then prove to him in such a way that you are a strong independent woman, that you are doing great on your own, and you do not need a man. But in the second case, which does not contradict femininity, the man will gladly show care and help, because in front of him is a weak, knowing nothing and not knowing how being. Of course, he thinks so:) We know that when a man is not at home, our closets easily move and shelves are nailed. But when a man is around, he should not even admit the thought that you know how to do a man's work. The more feminine you are, the more inspired he is to be masculine!"