Have you repeatedly let down your lack of self-confidence? Career and personal life depends on your courage and perseverance. Proven ways to build confidence and self-esteem.
How many times have you been let down by not being too confident in yourself and your strengths? Maybe because of insecurity, you have long been unable to approach the boss and ask him for a raise? Or is shyness preventing you from meeting the right people?
It's time to stop this. Self-confidence is a capricious thing, but quite controllable. Want to learn how to boost your self-esteem?
What is confidence?
Let's first define what a self-confident person should be like. It is easiest to list what qualities such people have.
So, self-confident people respect themselves, know what their life goals are, are not afraid to ask for help or advice, understand themselves and their needs, control themselves and their emotions, realize that they have weaknesses, and admit them. are not afraid to show their feelings when appropriate.
Well, can you call yourself confident?
Everything is surmountable
“There is no secret to success. It is the result of preparation, hard work and learning from mistakes,”wrote Colin Powell, former US Secretary of State, and was right. Having set long-term goals for himself, a person easily deviates from his plans, justifying himself with a lack of time and energy.
But even with the busiest pace of life, you can do a lot so as not to turn off the chosen course. Here are some simple strategies to help you stay on track, maintain your enthusiasm, and achieve your goals.
The power of visualization
Another way to exercise for confidence. Imagine chewing a slice of lemon … Surely, your mouth is filled with saliva. So? The fact is that our brains are often unable to distinguish between imagination and the real world. That is why one of the easiest and most effective ways to build willpower is visualization.
If you are afraid, say, to perform in public for the first time, just imagine the process of OT (starting from the moment you enter the hall) and TO (ending with the way you walk down from the stage). This trick works very well.
Science of failure
And, of course, the ability to say "NO" is the foundation of our confidence. When we learn to turn down unnecessary offers, we tell the world that we truly value ourselves. The hardest part is learning to refuse. Here are some strategies to help you.
Take your time with an answer. Don't apologize too much. Be concise. Offer to fulfill the request another time. Ask for time to make a decision. Use the technique of a worn-out record: just gently repeat your refusal, no matter how the interlocutor tries to put pressure on you.
Stress vaccine
Resilience to stress is everything. Without this quality, any self-confidence can very quickly "crumble" to pieces.
“Life is 10 percent what happens to you, and 90 percent how you react to it,” said the American writer Charles Swindall.
Therefore, let's react with minimal losses for ourselves. First, you need to set aside at least five minutes daily for relaxation. Secondly, it is important to remember that you are not a victim, you are in control of the situation and can change it for the better. Third, it is important to recognize that you have inner strength, diverse skills, talents, and abilities. And the most important thing is not to lose a sense of the goal, to remember what it is and how to go towards it.
As Churchill said, "The key to realizing your potential is hard work, not intelligence or strength." Start working on yourself - and everything will work out.
