Those who don't value their time usually don't have money either. Time is money. And also our time is our life. The one who does not value his time, does not value his life and himself. Where to get free time and how to save it?
Think what in this world belongs to you.
Have you thought? And what can you name?
Perhaps this is what: all sorts of things, money, health, time, some rights, your deeply personal feelings and thoughts … Well, maybe something else.
So, an amazing thing turns out. Almost all people value their belongings and money very much. Try to take them away, and they will immediately rush to the police, if they do not immediately shoot you. But much more valuable and, most importantly, irreplaceable items are not appreciated at all.
First of all, time. Think for yourself how stupidly the vast majority of people squander their time. For stupid entertainment like TV, computer games and tabloid novels. For hours of chatter. Digging up gardens instead of making more money and buying what you need. Even work is a waste of time.
After all, if you work as a simple mechanic, or you can be a shop manager or a plant director, you lose not only money, but also time. You are not moving up the corporate ladder, and it takes more precious minutes to earn each ruble than it could.
And there is not much time. Each of them has been released some years, if 80 is already good. And some of them have already been lived. And you will spend part of what is left, being a decrepit old man, and you will no longer live, but crawl from place to place. And it's also good if without outside help. In addition, we sleep for a third of our lives, and for about a third we work. So calculate how much time you have left for productive work, and most importantly, for joy.
Those who do not value their time usually do not have money either. Time is money. And also our time is our life. If we let time slip through our fingers, we flush our lives down the toilet. Anyone who does not value his time does not value his life. This means that he does not value himself. Doesn't love himself. Where can we talk about some kind of confidence?
Further - strength. Imagine that some acquaintance asks you to help wallpaper the apartment. Help in a friendly way. That is, it's free. Or sit for a few hours with a small child screaming and peeing. Also friendly. Do you agree? If so, you are an incorrigible sucker. But do not despair, you are not alone. Many agree and think that they are kind, helpful and helping people. And to refuse is inconvenient: you will seem callous and selfish.
And if you look closely, it turns out that a nurse for a child costs a lot, from 100 rubles per hour, wallpapering the walls is even more expensive. Your friend saves money, you waste your time and energy. This means that a friend values his money more than your efforts and time. More than your life. More than you. Should I help him, since he is such a goat?
And the energy and time that you spend crawling on walls or rocking a child can go to something else that you need and enjoy. You can make money, write a book, make love, or take a walk in the woods. And a friend tried to deprive you of all this. So let him wrestle himself.
Also - attention. Remember the last time you sat on your ears. Sometimes it is done by men, more often by women. Surely you have an acquaintance or girlfriend who is constantly looking for an attentive listener. And when she finds it, she loads it for several hours about how bad she is and what problems she has. About how new she is and what problems they have. About what her familiar goats. About angels and psychic energy. About all the nonsense that you care about.
You may think that you are helping her by listening to all this nonsense. Perhaps you consider yourself a tough psychologist at the same time. Or maybe you are just afraid to leave, turn your back, show that you are not interested? Be that as it may, you lose a couple of hours of time, and having got rid of the annoying girlfriend, you feel overwhelmed and dull and come to your senses for a long time. And she immediately finds another listener and starts the hurdy-gurdy first.
The truth is that listening carefully will not help anyone in any way. Even a professional psychologist does not always help. Your friend is simply stewing in a stew out of her own worthlessness, loneliness and self-pity. Instead of dealing with this once and for all, she burdens those who are ready to listen to her. The best thing you can do is yell at her, even rudely and obscenely. There is a chance that such an unexpected reaction will make her wake up, realize that she is a complete idiot, and start doing something real. True, this probability is negligible. But she will lag behind you.
Imagine a drunken bully knocking on your door in the middle of the night. Will you let him in? Of course not. Although, at the most, he will ask you for a cigarette or a bottle opener. But why do you meekly let in a talkative acquaintance who came to "visit" on the way in order to rob you of a couple of hours of your precious and irreplaceable time? And you don't even have a thought that something is wrong here.
Understand that attention is a great power and value. Concentration is an art that yogis have been studying for years. To know, understand, or do anything, you need to focus on it. And you cannot concentrate on anything whenever and for as long as you want. You are not a yogi, which means that you have a limited supply of concentrated attention. When you use it up, you will feel fatigued and will have to rest to recover.
And they pay for attention. Psychologists, for example, listen to their clients, no matter what nonsense they say, and charge money for it. So attention can be measured in money. You also lose your focus when you give it to moronic movies, stupid books and shitty music - basically, you gobble up the poop of popular culture.
* Get used to appreciate these three "things": time, energy and attention.
And don't waste them. Time can be planned, much has been written about this. The stores sell organizers to help you organize your time efficiently. This is taught in courses and trainings. Take advantage of this and apply it in life.
* Decide which three goals are most important to you, and do everything to achieve them. And don't be distracted by the little things.
When you reach at least one goal, replace it with something else. And so on until you get bored. That's enough for a start.
Save energy. Spend them on the most important things first. At least three of your goals. In theory, if you give your best, there will be no strength left for other nonsense. And time too. Do only what you owe (at home) and what you get paid for (at work). Let others solve their own problems, and you don't have to help anyone. Unless, of course, you are not on the way and all the help will take no more than five minutes of your time.
Decide in advance what you will give your attention to each morning. What business will you do with full dedication, with whom you will have a heart-to-heart talk, what book will you read. And try not to deviate. And if someone is trying to sit on your ears, ask yourself a simple question: "Am I interested in this?" If not, say so. Refuse to listen to this nonsense, leave the room, hang up. There is nothing wrong.