Almost every moment of his life, each person makes three key decisions that ultimately determine the quality of his life. Get on the road to positive change in your life.
There is nothing worse than chronic anger or unhappiness. Believe me, there is not the slightest excuse for this - and yet I see this almost every day. The reason for these phenomena is the same - an extremely unbalanced life in which they expect too much and do not value enough what they have.
If you do not appreciate what you have and are not grateful to fate for it, you will never be truly satisfied with your life. But how do you balance your life? Why strive for anything at all if achievement is simultaneously plunging your life into chaos?
For four decades now, I have been teaching people how to live the right way - and believe me, I am proud of my list of clients, because among them were some of the most powerful men and women on this planet. I have worked with both US presidents and successful businessmen and owners of large companies.
And you know what? During this time, I realized that almost every moment of his life, each person makes three key decisions that ultimately determine the quality of his life.
And if you make these decisions unconsciously, then, most likely, the fate of most of the people living nowadays awaits you - physically far from ideal, emotionally exhausted, and often poor, like church mice. But if you start making these decisions consciously, you can change your life from today.
First decision: Choose carefully where to focus
Every moment of your life, millions of different things are competing for your attention. And you have a choice - to focus on what is happening here and now, on what determines your future, or waste your attention on what happened in the past.
By focusing on something, you direct your energy towards it. What you focus on and how you do it will define your entire life.
What is better to focus on? What do you have or what do you lack?
I am more than sure that you are thinking about both sides of this coin. But if you take a close look at your everyday thoughts, you will realize that the lion's share of your time is spent on one of them. So which one?
If you find that most of your time is spent thinking about what you don’t have and envy of those who are more fortunate financially, then perhaps you should admit that you should be grateful for the fact that what you have, some of which has nothing to do with money. After all, you really should be grateful for your health, family, friends, opportunities and common sense.
By becoming accustomed to appreciating what you have, you can easily create a new level of emotional stability and wealth for yourself. Try to feel this gratitude with all your mind, body, heart and soul. For this is where the real joy, happiness and contentment of life lies.
Now look at your attention from the other side. Where do you most often focus your attention - what you can control, or what is beyond your control?
If you focus on things that you cannot control, you are only adding a little more stress to your life. Yes, you are in control of many factors in your life, but neither you nor anyone else can control every single one of them.
After you change this thinking pattern in the right direction, you should move on to the next important decision. And this…
Second solution: Try to understand what it all means
Ultimately, how you feel about your life has nothing to do with what is happening around you, your financial situation, and what happened to you or not. The quality of your life depends primarily on how you feel about all this.
Most of the time, you may not even be aware of the effect that your subconscious mind produces on your life, endowing this or that life event with a certain meaning.
When something happens to you that abruptly interrupts the usual course of your life (car accident, health problems, dismissal, and so on), what do you think this event is - the end or the beginning?
If someone comes into conflict with you, what will you learn from this - a gratuitous insult or a valuable lesson?
And if fate strikes you a crushing blow, what does that mean? Does this mean that higher powers want to punish or test you for something? Or maybe this is still an invaluable chance to become stronger?
Your life becomes the way you want it to be. And along with the meaning that you give it, a whole bunch of different emotions comes to you - which, in turn, change both your life itself and the way you live it.
During my seminars, I always ask the question: "Do you know someone who is on antidepressants, but never got rid of depression?" And, as a rule, from 85 to 90 percent of those present answer in the affirmative.
Have you ever wondered why? After all, after all, drugs are taken to get better. And only antidepressants have suicidal thoughts on the list of possible side effects.
The truth is that no matter how many antidepressants a person takes, if he constantly spends his time and attention on things that he cannot control, even using antidepressants only temporarily relieves depression. And if he also draws a conclusion from what is happening, like “life is rubbish, and life is not worth living,” then this emotional cocktail cannot be overcome by any antidepressant.
But if, as a result of what happened to him, the same person acquires a new goal of his life, a reason to live on, or the belief that everything that is being done is for the better, not a single misfortune will break him, moreover, it will only make him stronger …
When people break out of the trap of their usual aspirations and meanings, they begin to understand that in fact they are not limited by anything, and can make their lives the way they want. A change in the object on which you focus your attention, and a shift in the perception of life, can change your body's biochemistry in a positive direction in literally a few minutes.
So take back control of your own life, and always remember: the perception of life is equal to emotions, and emotions are equal to life. Choose consciously and wisely. Look for the bright side in any event - and you will gain wealth that you did not even know about, wealth in its true, deep sense.
As soon as you change your perception of life in the right direction, this change creates new emotions, which, in turn, lead you to make a third important decision:
Third solution: What to do?
The actions you take are largely colored by the emotional state in which you are. If you are angry, for example, you will behave very differently than when you are cheerful or angry.
And therefore, if you want to direct your actions in a certain direction, the easiest way to achieve this is to choose a worthy goal for yourself, and try to change your emotions in such a way that they give you strength, and not restrain you.
Moreover, for each person, these emotions are individual. One person is blinded by anger and makes him retreat, while to another it only gives strength and desire to go forward.
Some people express their anger quietly and peacefully. Someone is loud and violent. And someone successfully suppresses it in order to gain the upper hand in an argument with a cold head, or to get the opportunity to take revenge.
Where do we get these behaviors from? As a rule, we subconsciously copy them from the behavior of other people - those whom we respect and love.
Well, what about those who piss us off or make us angry? Often, we deliberately reject their behavior patterns simply because you don't like these people … But for some reason, we too often find that we "refuse" again and again to seemingly unworthy patterns of behavior of our youth. Why is this happening to us?
It would be very beneficial for any person to take a closer look at the behaviors to which they slip when they are irritated, angry, sad, or feeling lonely, as closely as possible. After all, without this he will never change them.
Now that you know about these three decisions, and you know how much power they have over you, you can already start looking for role models - people who made their lives the way you would like to see yours. And I can tell you without a shadow of a lie - people who maintain calm, gentle relationships with each other live much fuller and richer lives than those who constantly swear or fight. After all, only they really know what the meaning of their life is.
But if you've read this article, then you already know that you can achieve the same. And if you understand how differently people approach the above three solutions, you will certainly find your own path to positive change in your life.