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How girls like to meet, to communicate, what they like in terms of the appearance of the guys is a question that worries many, because girls are so mysterious and incomprehensible, but guys still want a romantic relationship, blah blah blah … In short, let's get straight to the point and without water, you did not come here for lengthy discussions about the relationship of the sexes.
Or TOP-10 tips on how not to be an unpleasant type, about which she will tell her friends "damn it, I met such a Dodik yesterday."
First, don't turn a date into an interview. No need to ask on the first date how she feels about cooking and whether she agrees that the wife should wash her husband's feet and drink water. This is perceived as a consumer attitude, as if you are not looking for a girl, not a partner or even a wife, but a housekeeper, or even just a robot vacuum cleaner with a sex function.
Of course, it is quite reasonable to discuss such questions as “do you want children”, “how do you see the distribution of finances, responsibilities and power in the family”. But not on the first dates, when you are just looking at each other. First dates should be easy and relaxed, and these issues are appropriate to raise when both of you realize that the relationship is getting more serious and you may want to become a family in the future.
Secondly, for God's sake, in the name of the health of your second cousin and all the cats of this world - not a word about the former. If a guy on the very first dates mentions his ex (it doesn't matter in this context, whether it was “a saint was a woman” or “how I survived with this shrew”) - for most girls this is immediately a stop signal and a marker that the guy has not yet unraveled his previous relationship, which means she will constantly compare her with the ex. And this is unpleasant.
The same goes for comparisons with other girls in principle. If you want to compliment her, do it, but not in the format “you are so good, but other girls…”. This, of course, will flatter her pride, but in general it is an alarming symptom: now you like her, and she is the best, but you consider the other girls not very good personalities. And what will happen if you quarrel and he does not please you in some way? Yeah, that's the same.
Third, be able to hear "no". No means no. Everything, period. Maximum you can specify once, whether it is "no". And that's all. Yes, I’ll say it again, because you don’t even know how many guys don’t hear this “no”.
Fourth, do not impose tactile contact on the girl. Especially on first dates. Do not violate her personal boundaries: you are still a complete stranger to her, and if you hug and kiss on the very first date, it can seriously scare her, because you never know what is on your mind.
Be guided by the girl's behavior: if she was the first to grab you by the arm - great, the first to kiss you on the cheek - even better, but don't overstep the boundaries and always be ready to retreat as soon as she makes it clear that she is uncomfortable. This will give the girl the feeling that she is safe with you, which is very important for them.
Tip ten: relax and be yourself
Any relationship is the interaction of two people, two personalities, do you agree? There are not and cannot be any patterns, just one person likes or dislikes another. Be an interesting person by yourself with interesting hobbies and a bright personality, be honest, open, adequate - and you don't need any additional dancing with a tambourine to please girls.