Are you happy? Honestly! It's time to reflect on the most important things in life. It's time to stop, find the long-awaited peace of mind and find yourself.
It's time to stop, reflect on the most important things in life, because this is the path to spiritual harmony.
Our tips will help you find peace of mind.
Avoid controversy
"In a dispute, truth is born" - these words are attributed to Socrates. Nothing like this. Quite the opposite: war is born in a dispute. In a dispute, a conflict is born. In a dispute … oh, how many troubles these eternal disputes bring! "This is my territory" - "No, mine!" - "My!" - "No, mine!" - "No, mine!" Bang! One person was killed. "You have one, we have two!" - "We have you - two, we have - four!" - "You - four …" War! Fearfully!
In a dispute, truth is not born. I know people who always disagree with everything and constantly argue, no matter what you say:
- What a wonderful weather. The sun!
- What? It's hot, the sun is baking, it's impossible to walk.
- What a bad weather. Rain!
- What? Rain - good, great! I think it's better, the rhythm beats off. Rain!
Whatever you say, your interlocutor is always arguing. Oh, how you get tired of these disputes! How to be? Don't argue. Get away from the argument. Another thing is to defend your thought. Continue to defend even if many people do not understand you. Try to present it in a different way, in more detail, with evidence, to argue your position. Listening to different points of view is not an argument, it is a discussion. This is a comparison, this is a search for a solution to a particular problem. But arguing over trifles and not over trifles is a waste of time and nerves.
The exercise:
Should or shouldn't you agree with me? Just do not argue, but think about this topic.
Listen to the conversations of your colleagues and acquaintances: how much time do they waste on empty, unnecessary disputes? Show wisdom: down with the argument. Long live good manners! We think on this topic all day!
Not circumstances should govern a person, but a person should control circumstances
It is not circumstances that should govern a person, but each of us should govern these circumstances.
But what if the circumstances are pressing? And one day a man, lowering his hands, says: “I hate this life. I feel bad. Nothing works for me. I do not have time. I have no calling for anything. I don't like work, the house is annoying, people make me angry or envy. Everyone succeeds, but I don’t. I don’t want to live like that.” This is scary. A person should never talk like that. Think about this topic. Circumstances should not govern a person, but a person should govern circumstances. List these circumstances. Make a list of your desires. You are in control of circumstances, and you need to make decisions and follow through on what you started.
The exercise:
How to proceed? Make a to-do list. Plan, learn to say no. Disobey the circumstances. Not to go with the flow, but to know what and why you are doing today, in a week, in a month, how you want to see yourself in a year.
And then the circumstances will begin to obey you. You will manage them. You will cease to be slaves to circumstances and hostages in this life. You will feel like a person.
Life is motion
Life is motion. As soon as a person was born and he was slapped on a soft spot, he immediately at least slightly, but surely begins to wiggle his arms-legs, his head. He has no strength yet, but he shouts at the top of his lungs: "I am alive, I have come into this world!" The baby is swaddled, but he wants to open up and move.
When we become adults, we forget about this, that life is a movement. We wake up in the morning and think, "I don't want to go to work." We get up lazily. No to do a short charge! We start running in the morning and soon give up, sign up for the pool, but after a week or two, our fuse disappears. We are too lazy in winter to walk once again in a snow-covered park or just along the street. We run to the bus instead of going through two or three extra stops. We go up and down the elevator, although we can go up and down the stairs on foot. A person, if he walks at least an hour a day, lives a year or two more than people leading a sedentary lifestyle. And if he plays tennis, football, volleyball, and runs for an average of half an hour every day, he will live five to six years more. We move a little. The lack of exercise is destroying us.
Do you want to get better? Traffic! Movement is the way forward. This is the way to improve your own self. Get a dog, walk with it. Take your kids out on weekends. Walk more. At the dacha, play, run, jump. Stretch the net: even two people can play volleyball. Start the morning with movement. And, if possible, make it a habit to take a quiet walk before bed.
The exercise:
Task for the week - check how much time (minutes, hours) per day you move, and how much - sit. Strive for metrics: 50% sit or lie down, 50% move. Then life will be better. Try to live this week this way - and maybe moving constantly and living actively, with interest, with your family, with friends, will become your habit. And then you will live a long and interesting life.
Laughter therapy
What if everything falls out of hand? If the soul is already bad, and then there is snow, rain, cloudy? You came to work and faced a misunderstanding of your boss: he gave you a lot of assignments in addition to yesterday's tasks, not realizing that all this cannot be dealt with on time. You returned home, and there is a mountain of unwashed dishes, dust. When to wash, clean up, do the dishes? Spun, spun. And it's so hard and lonely, and it seems that no one understands.
For seven years I helped Yuri Nikulin write the book "Almost Seriously …". There is a story in it, as in the war during the bombing, when it seemed that death was inevitable, someone suddenly took and told an anecdote, and everyone would laugh. And it didn't get so scary. Sometimes I look at the clown toy that Yuri Vladimirovich gave me.
“Everything will pass, everything will go away,” whistles this funny, touching clown. Looking at him, I think: what if we treat everything that happens with irony, with ease? It has been worse, and maybe it will be even worse. And I'll try to cheer myself up.
The exercise:
What to do? Engage in laughter therapy. Yes, yes - take a collection of jokes or a funny book, find and watch old comedy films. Or remember something funny - from childhood, from school or student years. Or start collecting funny, funny, touching, ironic phrases that people around you say … You smile and the world will become a better place. And so every day - 10 minutes of laughter therapy. Whole week. And it will be fun.
Half an hour of quiet life
Remember how you spend your day? We got up - and away we go! I’m in a hurry: I’m running, I don’t have time. I need to do one, second, third, fourth, fifth, tenth, twentieth, hundredth … I promised one, asked for another, the third calls, I must call the fourth, I owe money to someone, someone owes me, at work - a report, at home - children need care. We find ourselves in a whirlwind. In the evening, we are excited by the events of the day, by music, by TV and its crime chronicles, shootings, blood. And we ourselves want everything and want a thrill. And we seem to understand - it is not necessary, to calm down. And then we go to bed and cannot sleep.
So tomorrow … No, today! Let's start half an hour of a quiet life! Better before bed. Sit down, cross your arms, you can look at yourself in the mirror - or you don't need to. Close your eyes and think: what have you done, what needs to be done, are the things you are doing obligatory? Why are you worried, in a hurry, constantly running? Tell yourself: “Calm down, I'm in no hurry. I remember the past day. I'm planning things for tomorrow. I give myself half an hour of quiet life. " And plan for yourself half an hour of a quiet life, when you are in no hurry, when you move away from the problems that worry you and prevent you from falling asleep. Do not think about them, think only about the good. Let it be memories of childhood or of what you read, what you saw - but always about what makes you feel positive. Half an hour of quiet life, and the day - and the next day - will be better.
The exercise:
Try from today to be sure to devote half an hour to a quiet life. Think about yourself, about your loved ones, about the good, about what gives you pleasure and brings joyful sensations. If you can live like this for a week, you will see that what you dream about will become reality. What you are waiting for will find you by itself. There are no desperate situations, there are desperate people. If you have half an hour of calm life, despair will go away. And the opening will come. I wish you that. Good luck and joy.
