Often we are doing something completely different from what would be worth wasting our energy, life and time. Here are some questions to help you look at life and the situation around you in a different light.
Most people do not succeed because they do well at unnecessary things. Tony Robbins
Here are 10 questions that, if you answer with due diligence, will change your life and increase your effectiveness.
1. Who do you want to be and what experiences do you want to have?
Who you are? You are not your reflection in the mirror. And not your job title. The better you can answer this question, and the better you understand who you really are, the better you will be able to cope with an ever-changing world. you will have a pivot.
I once asked one of my colleagues how he manages his career. He replied: “Simple. I determine what experience I want to experience by the end of the year."
Also a few years ago, one of my managers asked me, “Who do you want to be when people look at you? Naturally, I didn't want to be a coward or a weakling. I wanted to be more like James Bond.
So, we get a simple question that will act as a compass on our thorny path: "Who are you, who do you want to be, and what impressions do you want to experience?"
2. Why do you do what you do?
When you know why you are doing something, you cannot be stopped. Why? Because your goal gives you strength. She fills your body, mind and spirit with strength.
This is the easiest way to find restless strength.
This is the easiest way to replenish your energy reserves.
This is the best way to start your journey, and re-step on it after the fall.
Why am I personally doing what I do? The answer is quite simple: I want to improve the quality of life of as many people as possible for the longest possible period, using all my capabilities.
3. What are your values?
Your values light up your life. The problem is that most of us don't realize which values are most important.
Here are a few of mine: Adventure, Mastery, Inspiration.
In one of the leadership trainings, we plunged into the inner world and looked for our deepest values. Once I realized that Adventure was important to me, I implemented it into my work and my life. At work, instead of managing projects, I began to lead "epic adventures." My team even drew a poster of our future victory to inspire us. And I set a goal to travel across the country at least once a year.
All of this brought the spirit of Adventure into my life and made me happier.
4. What are your strengths?
Your strengths are your talents. You develop them every day, and this development is given to you without much difficulty. Therefore, you may not even realize that these are your strengths.
But other people find them hard. And that is why they are so valuable. Do you know what your strengths are?
I haven't noticed my strengths for years. Fortunately, I had a mentor who taught me to spend more time with them. For example, one of my strengths is working with information. It is easy for me to manage arrays of complex information, structure and simplify it. With this power, I can bring more value to myself, my team, business and the world.
You can change at least your world if you can find and develop your strengths.
5. What do you spend your time on?
I think you know the expression: "First we create our habits, then our habits create us." This is true. If you want to get more out of life, then invest time in what you value.
For example, if you value learning, then let your task be to develop your skills. If you value productivity, find a way to get your work done better and faster. But there is also a reason why it is important to spend our time mindfully.
There are three paths to happiness: A pleasant life (having as much pleasure as possible), A good life (spending time on something that you value), and a Meaningful life (using your power for the benefit of society). The bottom line is that to balance our basic needs - happiness, goal achievement, meaning in life, and legacy - you need to use all of these approaches in parallel, not just one of them. And then you can realize yourself to the maximum.
6. Who do you spend your time with?
We're the average of the 10 people we spend the most time with.
Do the people around you inspire you? Do they support you, or do they hinder your development?
It is always important not only what you know, but also who you know. Dating helps you find a job, navigate a world filled with information, develop skills and fulfill your potential.
7. What projects are you working on?
Several years ago I learned that Leonardo DiCaprio was very selective in his choice of projects. He wanted his portfolio to guarantee his future work, and also to become his legacy that he could be proud of.
I applied this approach to my work and realized that work can be a great form of expression. I found ways to take on bigger, more exciting projects. I became known as the "blockbuster director" because I worked on big and challenging projects.
8. What are you eating?
When I recently ate at a health food restaurant, a waitress listed me points that have helped her become healthier in recent years: Avoid dairy, soy, gluten, GMOs, and animal foods whenever possible.
Your body gives you feedback on a regular basis. Again, it is not in vain that they say “you are what you eat”. Quite a long time ago, Tony Robbins said that people who spend all their time at work will later pay off with their health. There are many ways to eat well, and some of them are controversial. Personally, the research I see most often comes from Dr. Joel Furman (author of the bestselling Eat to Live).
9. What do you spend your money on?
Or is it better to ask the question, what are you not spending your money on? The quick way to get rich is to spend less than you get. And in order to spend less, you need to reduce the cost of unimportant things.
But there is another important point.
In order to increase your wealth, you need to bring real value to people. Of course, there are exceptions, but if you want to become very rich, then you have to carry very great value. But there is a big difference between those who simply carry great value and those who are also rich at the same time. The rich know how to monetize this value.
10. Are you asking the right questions?
If you want to find the right answers about life, then ask the right questions. Also ask questions to draw your attention to the topic you are looking for. And if you want to quickly focus on something else, then ask another question.
But what questions should you ask? This is the right question.
Hopefully this list of questions will give you food for thought for the next few years, or at least for today.