All people love to be in their comfort zone, where they do not have to strain and everything is known. But a million new opportunities will open before you when you leave the limits of your limitations.
Now you will learn about the force that prevents you from changing and achieving your goals. This habit is the most harmful of all that can be. Removing it, you will discover the WHOLE WORLD! You will be able to go through life without discomfort. A million new possibilities will open before you when you start using the algorithm for expanding your "comfort zone".
What is a comfort zone? This is the reality to which a person is accustomed: places, people, actions - for example, driving style, manner of speaking, how to say hello, how to say hello on the phone, how to start speaking, how to stand, a certain set of familiar facial expressions, habitual train of thought, the usual thinking algorithm. All this is called the "comfort zone". All people love to be in their comfort zone. It is convenient - no need to strain: we know everything, we can do everything with our eyes closed.
When does a person fall outside their comfort zone? For example, when you find yourself in an unfamiliar place, in a new company, at a new job. What does a person feel in those moments when he commits new, unusual actions for himself? Remember how you learned to drive. Leaving the "comfort zone", a normal person experiences stress, tension, discomfort. This is a natural phenomenon, because a stream of new information is piling on us. We need to think about dozens of new factors: "How, where to stand?", "How to approach this and that", "What's his name?" and so on. A lot of new tasks are piled on our consciousness, and from this we experience discomfort.
If the computer is given a lot of tasks at once, then it freezes. The same thing happens to us. Leaving the "comfort zone" cannot be done automatically. The person also freezes. And if he still thinks that everyone needs to be liked, if he is afraid to look bad, if he imagines failure ahead, then he strives with all his might to return to the “comfort zone”.
He does this once. Then a second time. And he already has a connection. A certain model of behavior. It can be formulated as follows: "If I go outside the" comfort zone ", then I need to quickly return to the" comfort zone "!"
But here's the paradox: all our goals that we want to achieve - new opportunities, money, success, acquaintances - are far beyond the "comfort zone". A person wants to have a family, wants wealth, influence, confidence, and all this is outside of his "comfort zone". If a person does not know how to go beyond the "comfort zone", does not know how to expand it, then he will not achieve anything. There is a statistic: 80% of people who win millions in lottery prizes in the United States lose their money within the first six years. Because this change takes them out of the "comfort zone" - new people, new places, actions, thoughts appear around. And man is used to coming back.
The comfort zone is very strong. Because the force that pulls back is in the subconscious, and the subconscious controls us. Consciousness and subconsciousness sometimes collide. Consciousness operates with the concepts "can - not, right - wrong." And the subconscious mind acts on the principle "I want" or "I do not want". If the subconscious of a person does not want, then the consciousness can say as much as it wants: "This is your chance … You must speak at this meeting, the founders will notice you, you will be praised, you have something to say", "This girl (guy) is your destiny … You need it ! " And the subconscious mind at this time will send signals to your body to sit: “I don’t want!”, “Don't go!”.
That is, a chance - a new job, new opportunities - all this is outside the "comfort zone", and a person may even get sick if he needs to go for an interview. Habit, the subconscious mind controls it. Therefore, in order to learn how to change your life, to achieve new, big goals at any time and with any people, you need to reprogram yourself, you need to introduce goals within your “comfort zone”.
You need to learn to do so that the whole world is within the "comfort zone" so that the feeling of discomfort does not arise. If we can achieve this, then our actions will be guided by really common sense, and not a feeling of fear of discomfort and not a habit of coming back.
How to do it? How to learn to leave the "comfort zone", to push it apart so that all actions are comfortable? First, you need to logically get rid of the fear of failure and the fear of looking bad. That is, remember everything that is written in this book in the chapter "Overcome fear". Then you need to transfer understanding to the level of physical sensations.
The solution is to experience pleasure as you step out of your comfort zone. You begin to move through life, guided by common sense and enjoying everything new. There are very happy people who develop quickly and always go one step ahead. They reprogrammed their worst habit. “Normal” people are used to returning, while extraordinary people enjoy the fact that they realize new opportunities, make new acquaintances, etc. How to do this?
There are three ways to enjoy getting out of your comfort zone. You need to apply them, and preferably all three at once, at EVERY moment of discomfort from NEW actions or changes for 49 days. In this case, I guarantee you a new sense of life, self-confidence and freedom in such a size that you, dear reader, could not even imagine in your wildest fantasies! Just remember: you can only expand your "comfort zone" little by little. Don't jump too far into the "stress zone" right away. Feel mild discomfort, which indicates that you have left the "comfort zone", and immediately begin to enjoy.
Method 1. Praise
The moment when you leave the "comfort zone" can be felt physically: when we do something new, we feel discomfort, and at this moment we need to praise ourselves STRONGLY. For example, like this: “This is VICTORY !!! I am a bright extraordinary person! I am unique and unrepeatable! I'm super! I grow and develop! " You can add to these words your favorite praises for yourself, say them to yourself or out loud with the greatest emotional intensity you can. By the way, when you start praising yourself with emotional intensity, it will start to increase. It's like physical fitness: the more you train, the stronger you get. Your self-love and confidence will increase, and as a result, everyone will begin to notice your charisma and attractiveness.
Method 2. Remember the goals
At the same moment, when you emotionally praise yourself for leaving your “comfort zone”, remember your big goals, dreams that you must have in order to live a full, effective life.
After all, if you have no goals, you are like a ship that carries with all the winds. Where other people "carry" you, there you go. They say that there are no lazy people, but there are goals that do not inspire. With the help of my program, you will set yourself some inspiring goals that you will remember when you expand your comfort zone. For example, you see a new dress that is more challenging than you usually wear. You want to wear it, but it makes you uncomfortable. After all, this is something that you have never worn. You have the option to give up and gain a foothold in your comfort zone. What you have never done, you have not done this time either. This means that you can forget about goals that are outside your current "comfort zone". The second option: put on this dress (you will feel discomfort, as with any new action), and at this moment you praise yourself incredibly emotionally and passionately, from this you enter a state of drive and immediately imagine the moment when you reached one of your big goals. Imagine this moment of victory and pleasure. A moment of celebration and happiness. All this adds up to one wonderful super cocktail of positive emotions. It has your victory now, it has your future success, which you see and for which you program your subconscious. It has your drive NOW when all this happens to you … It is an emotional state of victory that makes your eyes shine brighter than diamonds. "What if someone doesn't like it?" - you think. You can be sure: the brighter you are, the more people there will be who don't like you. This is how the world works. The brighter a person is, the more people dislike him. The US President is not liked by the 50 million people who voted against him, and the 2 billion people on Earth who do not like the US in principle. Yulia Tymoshenko is not liked by only 10 million people in Ukraine and another 2 billion men who believe that women should not get involved in politics at all. Remember that not everyone likes Philip Kirkorov. Remember: you are in good company when you are discussed. Know that if you want to live a bright life, you must come to terms with the fact that part of the gray mass will condemn you and envy you. And know that when you do ANY extraordinary, bright, spontaneous act - I admire you! Therefore, choose: to realize your extraordinary and individuality, or to sit like a mouse, dreaming of something bright and at the same time afraid to come out into the light. Therefore, feeling the border of your "comfort zone", take a step towards your dream, praise yourself and look at your goal for which you are taking this step.
Method 3. Encourage yourself to expand your "comfort zone"
Make a plan of action to expand your comfort zone and link all your purchases to actions to implement that plan. For example, you want to buy yourself a new thing. You know that you are still uncomfortable talking about your feelings in the company of unfamiliar people, but you know that in order to realize your dream and become, for example, an actress, this is necessary. Who doubts, let him read the interviews of any actress or singer, where they share the details of their intimate life and experiences that are not much different from what the cashier of any supermarket feels. The only difference is that the famous actress at some point in her life stopped closing, but became open and extraordinary. She stopped wasting her energy on being like everyone else. She stopped thinking about what other people and neighbors would say about her, but just, like Masha Rasputina, she began to sing. So what if 20 million Russian-speaking music lovers and aesthetes don't like this? So what if the whole world can laugh at her outfits and songs? Don't give a damn about such "experts": if you want to sing and you like yourself, you have the right to sing, and they have the right to sit in the shadows and laugh. Everyone chooses what he wants. As a result, each striking personality finds its own audience. Brightness and personality are attractive.
So, you need to learn how to express your feelings in front of unfamiliar people. You decide that next time you start to introduce this quality into your “comfort zone”, and you tell yourself that as soon as you do this, you immediately buy yourself the thing you want. And now the right moment comes. In an unfamiliar company, you begin to tell how you feel at the moment when you stand with a bucket of water in which pieces of ice float, and you are going to pour it all right on yourself. At this moment, of course, you follow the first two rules to expand your "comfort zone", that is, you praise yourself incredibly passionately (be sure to continue doing this when you finish) and imagine yourself after realizing your goal (the brightest moment of happiness, buzz and triumph at the time of fulfillment of desires). And now, when you have done this, say to yourself: “This is Victory !! I pushed back the border of the "comfort zone"! " Hooray!!! You got a present …
And it doesn't matter that girls in an unfamiliar company make displeased faces. Men will remember you for a long time, believe me. But the most important thing is to do this several times, and you will forever get rid of the discomfort that stopped you before reaching YOUR GOALS! This is victory!!! Just remember: there are two boundaries that should NEVER be crossed! These are Divine Commandments and the Criminal Code of the country where you live. These boundaries and the instinct for self-preservation are what should limit you. And the rest - do and rejoice. Live like a child, play, have fun, joke, do extraordinary deeds. Live with passion.
- This time it was in a new way: I had one sock full of holes …
So, let's summarize. To move forward, to achieve goals and to a life full of comfort, pleasure and success, it is necessary to expand the "comfort zone" and make sure that the movement forward is connected in the subconscious with pleasure. There are three remedies for this. In a moment of discomfort, showing that this is your boundary, praise yourself with passion, remember your big goal and reward financially. You will create an irresistible force within yourself that will lead you to success.
Start expanding your comfort zone
For this you need:
Go to new places + (praise - remember goals - encourage)
Meet new people + (praise - remember goals - encourage)
Take new actions + (praise - remember goals - encourage)
Use new patterns of behavior + (praise - remember goals - encourage). By the way, your favorite films will help you here. You can try new roles.
In most cases, within a month you will become the most extravagant, extraordinary and unique person in your circle (which by this time will be incredibly expanded). If you still feel sometimes fear of failure and dependence on the opinions of others, come to my trainings, and I give you a guarantee: you will completely get rid of fear.
Go ahead, take action, do something new right now + (praise - remember goals - encourage).
"Comfort zone" is a loose concept. Do you know how many nudists live in America? 150 thousand are officially included in the society of nudists in the United States. And they are very fighting for their rights - they insisted that they have their own separate flight to Los Angeles, on which they can fly naked. And you get uncomfortable with a cup of coffee spilled on your white suit.
Here and now
If you follow your thoughts, it turns out that almost all the time that we are not engaged in complex new activities that require our conscious presence, we are either in memories of the past, or in thoughts of the future.
So, let's summarize. To move forward, to achieve goals and to a life full of comfort, pleasure and success, it is necessary to expand the "comfort zone" and make sure that the movement forward is connected in the subconscious with pleasure. There are three remedies for this. In a moment of discomfort, showing that this is your boundary, praise yourself with passion, remember your big goal and reward financially. You will create an irresistible force within yourself that will lead you to success.
There is only a moment between the past and the future, it is he who is called life. Words from a song
This state is called "No one is at home." The state of fear is caused precisely by thoughts about the future. Rather fantasies about the future. 100% of our fears are related to future anticipated events, which most likely will never happen. Those who are afraid to fly in airplanes will never crash. Their chances of crashing are a thousand times less than dying from a heart attack, which can be caused by fear of flying. Live here and now"! You have nothing to be afraid of this second. And the next one. And the next one. You will see that as soon as you learn to live "at home", to live not in illusions, but in reality, all your fears will disappear and you will become very strong. All your attention will be "here and now," and this is a very effective state of consciousness.
