Impudent and unceremonious people climb into life? For them, there are no boundaries, prohibitions and decency. How to get away from communication and put impudent people in their place?
Impudent and unceremonious people creep into your life as if it were their personal territory. For them, there are no boundaries, prohibitions and decency. They command, criticize, demand obedience, rude with full confidence that they have the right to do so. With such people, there are only two acceptable options for behavior: either decisively leave communication with them, or put them in their place.
Ignore the insolent
If the insolent person pesters you with his remarks, insults and harassment on the street, in transport or in any other public place, you can simply get away from such communication and do it absolutely calmly, without uttering a word. Remember that you are not obligated to respond to all the comments and questions asked to you. A complete lack of reaction is the best answer to an insolent person. Ignore him - and you will not give him the gift he is waiting for. After all, he is waiting for your reaction - it doesn't matter if it is embarrassment, confusion or rudeness on your part. For him, it is only important to annoy you in one way or another. Deep down, he feels flawed, he has low self-esteem, and only in this way can he feel significant, feel his power. So let him see that he has no power over you, for you he is nothing, an empty place. Do not let the impudent assert itself at your expense.
Just laugh
If there is no way to completely get away from communication (for example, this is a fellow traveler in transport, with whom, whether you like it or not, you have to be around for a while), it can be hard to play in silence, you will start to strain, willy-nilly, and a cheeky person to your of joy he will feel that after all, he "got" you. In this case, you can react to the actions of the impudent, but not at all in the way he expects, but in the exact opposite way. For example, instead of answering his tactless questions, you can smile and say in the softest, most pleasant voice: "You are so kind and well-mannered, you rarely meet such a nice person …" And if he swears, shouts or frankly insults you, smile again or even laugh, start clapping your hands and exclaiming: “Bravo! Bravo!" Do not take the insolent person seriously - this is just a poorly educated person with a low level of culture. The fact that he behaves this way is his problem, not yours. Turn everything into a game that you might even end up enjoying in the end.
Feel free to fight back
A slightly different situation is when we have to communicate with a cheeky, unceremonious person more or less constantly. For example, he is your neighbor or work colleague. It is important to immediately stop his attempts to get into your life. This must be done calmly, but firmly. Unfortunately, it often happens that we automatically answer someone's questions before we even realize that we don't need to. For example, an unceremonious neighbor comes to your house without an invitation, begins to look at your things and ask where you got so much money to buy them. Control yourself, do not rush to answer. It is better to avoid answering by using a counter question, for example: "Do you all ask such questions?" or "What else are you interested in learning about me?" You can say directly that you do not intend to answer, do not want to communicate. You can point to the door unambiguously. But try to do without swearing and shouting, these reactions require too much nerve costs, save your strength. And it is not worth stopping to the level of an impudent person, your self-esteem may suffer from this.
Remember that the most effective way to protect yourself from arrogance and insolence is to learn to say no. With this word, you will put up an invisible, but reliable barrier between yourself and the impudent person pestering you. He crawls into your soul, invites you to visit, demands that you do something for him or for him - say a firm "no." He shouts - say that you do not intend to communicate in that tone. If he already goes overboard, threatens or does nasty things to you, remember that you have the right to sue him, or at least warn him that you can do it. Arrogant people are often cowardly at heart, and this technique can help curb them.
Workshop
If you are endlessly bothered by some arrogant and unceremonious person, learn to mentally place yourself under an imaginary glass jar when you see him approaching. Alternatively, imagine that you are placing it under a glass cover. And begin, as it were through glass, to examine him with curiosity, while not listening to what he says.
You can think about something of your own and at the same time assent and smile. He will quickly get tired of pestering you.
If, communicating with an impudent person, you feel that everything is boiling inside, you cannot keep calm - remember that restraining emotions is unhealthy. If you really want to make a scandal - scandal! But just don't do it in all seriousness. Imagine that you are an actor playing a scandal on stage or in a TV series. Enjoy the game - and express your emotions to the fullest!
And remember that if other methods do not work, you always have the right to harshly discourage the impudent person. And don't be afraid to sound impolite.
