The fair sex love to give advice to everyone around. And most men are allergic to constant advice. What advice to listen to and what to ignore?
It just so happened that women are very fond of giving advice to everyone around them. It's good if the circle of those to whom she gives advice is limited to dad and mom. But it is much worse if the circle of people who accept the advice turns out to be very wide. Because the fair sex will hone her skills in giving advice on her husband. And most of the stronger sex for some reason have an allergy to constant advice from their spouse.
And what to do with this, how to reverse a difficult situation, even experts often do not know. And psychologists, unable to comprehend women's logic, wash their hands and also do not know what to advise.
A friend of mine had a spouse who was very fond of giving advice. Not even an hour passed without her telling her husband how to act in a given situation. If he went to the store, he received a bunch of advice on what to buy and in which department or store to get the freshest and best products. In the event that a representative of the stronger sex was going to work, his wife gave him a bunch of all sorts of recommendations on what to wear and how to tie a tie. Well, if a man was going on any trip, then only his spouse collected a suitcase or bag for him. And she did not want to listen to any opinion other than her own.
From time to time the situation escalated, the spouses fought with each other, the husband yelled that he himself could get ready for work, go on a business trip or go to the grocery store. But once the advice of his wife saved his life. In 2009, he was supposed to fly on a business trip to Perm. But my wife said that on this day it is better not to fly, but to take tickets for another flight. A stormy showdown ended with the ticket torn and thrown out the window. As a result, the spouse did not fly on this flight, and the plane … crashed, all passengers were killed. And since then, my friend listens to the advice of his faithful and believes that it is to her that he owes his life. After all, if not for his wife, he would also have ended up in that plane that crashed near Perm. So the wife's advice is not always useless or of little interest. If you listen to wise advice from your spouse, then, perhaps, you will not only gain something, but you will also save your life.
However, the spouse's advice does not always mean something good and does not always match the real situation. Here are a few times when the advice of your other half can be ignored.
The first time you don't have to listen to your wife's advice. If the spouse is stingy and does not like to spend money, then, probably, she should not be especially devoted to the big expenses that lie ahead. And, of course, you shouldn't listen to advice on what not to buy and what you can wait with. Because the miser, as you know, pays twice.
The second case is when you don't need to listen to your wife's advice. If a man is married for a second marriage, and he has children from the first, it is probably better not to take the advice of the new wife on their upbringing or the frequency of communication. Because the new spouse will probably be jealous of her husband for the children from his first marriage and will not advise anything good.
The third case is when you don't need to listen to your wife's advice. Sometimes it happens that a woman, having barely married, begins to give advice to her husband - with whom he should be friends, and with whom he should not communicate at all. And such advice should be treated with great caution. Because stories are not uncommon when a man diverged from his faithful friends in life precisely because of the advice of his wife. Here it is better to maintain balance and maintain relationships with both your wife and friends.
However, the above cases do not mean at all that you shouldn't listen to your wife's advice at all. On the contrary, you need to listen, analyze and choose the most necessary and important of them. Sometimes it can even save a life, as was the case in the above-described case with the flight to Perm. So listen, listen and listen again. Quite often the wife will not advise badly, especially if her advice is not spontaneous, but well and well thought out in detail.
So everything is individual. And in no case should you perceive your spouse as an enemy or as a person who always gives bad advice. After all, this is far from the case. One might even say that it is not at all so. A wife is, first of all, a friend and advisor. But what advice to take into account, and what not to pay attention to, everyone decides for himself.