We don't have enough time not because we are spending it in the wrong way. We think in other categories and trust myths. How to manage your time correctly?
Very often we do not have enough time, not because we are spending it incorrectly, but only because we think in the wrong categories, trusting myths.
Roger Sipe calls these myths in his book Brain Development.
The myth of balance
The desire to achieve "balance" is your first problem. There is no balance in our society.
Consider a balanced week. There are 168 hours in a week, so in a balanced week it would be necessary to highlight the following:
- 28 hours for sports and / or sleep
- 28 hours of reading, prayer, meditation and / or study
- 28 hours for investment / financial planning
- 28 hours to work
- 28 hours for full communication with the family
- 28 hours for full communication with friends and / or participation in public life
Such a balanced life would be unbearable! So stop worrying about the lack of balance in your life! After all, what you really need is not balance, but harmony. Harmony means: you agree that there is no balance in your life, and set the task to achieve a balance that suits you. This way of life is much more natural.
The myth that time can be controlled
Time cannot be controlled. It just goes away. You can't fire time, you can't evaluate his work and make him behave differently; you cannot change the principles of calculating bonuses for time so that it tries harder. You can't manage time, so don't try!
Focus on what you can manage. Remember the model of thinking "GDP (power, influence. Acceptance)". It means that there are things in life in relation to which you must perform the following actions. By learning to accept things that are not subject to our power and influence, we get rid of feelings of resentment. When we have power over what is within our control and influence what is amenable to influence, our life rises to a qualitatively new level. The passage of time can only be accepted. Our actions, priorities, and methods of focus are either within our control or influenced. Manage them and you will be managing your time in the right way.
The myth of the lack of time
How often do you say, "I just didn't have enough time" or "I didn't have enough time"? This is another common mistake. It is important to understand that the very thought of “running out of time” is a trap. By thinking this way, you create a scarcity mentality. And it by itself is capable of depleting your energy so much that it will be difficult to replace the loss. We either have time, or we find it for everything that is important to us. In fact, "scarcity" occurs when we give too much importance to things that don't deserve it.
