No one can succeed in your place. The life you live you create for yourself. Here are some helpful lessons to learn before it's too late.
Here are the values to reevaluate - some important lessons to learn before it's too late:
1. Tomorrow, when you say "I love you," may not come for you
About ten years ago, a colleague of mine died in a car accident. During the funeral, some of our office workers were in tears and said kind words like, “I loved him. We all loved him so much. He was such a good person. " I also began to cry, and I could not understand whether these people told him that they loved him when he was alive, or whether it was only after his death that this powerful word "love" was spoken without question or hesitation.
I vowed to myself that I would never hesitate again to say “I love” to someone and tell them how much I am grateful to him. He deserves to know what meaning he has in my life. He deserves to know how highly I value him.
We conclude: if you love someone today, tell him about it. If you are grateful to someone today, tell him about it. Today is great for expressing your love and admiration.
2. Your judgments about other people are wrong
You can never know exactly what the other person is experiencing or the whole background of an event. When you think you know, then think about how your assumptions about his life are directly related to your limited knowledge.
Many of those you think are successful are completely unhappy. Many of those who, in your opinion, get everything easily, work tirelessly to get everything that they have. Many of those who appear to be wealthy are in fact deeply in debt due to their extravagance. Many of those who seem old and boring to you now were once as young, cool and inexperienced as you are.
3. Most people fail because they never try
You don't have to worry about mistakes and failures, you have to worry about the opportunities you lose when you don't even try. This is what hurts you the most. If you try, it always leads to success, regardless of the results. Even mistakes and failures teach you what not to do next time. So any result? it is a lesson that makes you stronger and wiser.
After all, there is only one thing that makes the dream impossible: the inability to try. The results you achieve do not depend on what you plan to do or what you say you will do. Your results are what you TRY and DO.
4. Patience does not mean waiting and doing nothing
Patience is about being productive. This means that you put in every effort, using every opportunity available to you, when you understand that the results you are striving for are worth the time and effort, and cannot be achieved with less time and less effort.
Patience is understanding that the quality of your life matters much more than the quantity of what you fill it with. Patience ? it is your willingness to accept with gratitude what you have now as you make persistent, focused efforts to achieve your goals and dreams. Read the book The Power of Habit.
5. You already have everything to be happy
On an intuitive level, you already know that the best things in your life are not things at all, and that relationships, learning, and meaningful work? the foundation of a happy, fulfilling life. But you live in a consumerist society in which your mind is constantly exposed to well-designed advertising techniques. They push, contrary to sober calculation, to buy material things that you don't need and that you don't even want.
At some point, the unnecessary material things you buy crowd out emotional needs. Advertising creators want you to believe that this is the most important thing. So the next time you almost succumb to the temptation to make a rash purchase, ask yourself if this item is really any better than the ones you already own. Or have you been made to believe for a moment that you are dissatisfied with what you have?
6. You are imperfect, just like everyone else
All people are imperfect. At times, the self-confident loses confidence, the patient loses patience, the generous behaves selfishly, and those in the know doubt what they know.
So what? You are human, just like me - we are all human. We make mistakes, we lose our temper, and we are caught off guard.
But the problem is that we all experience such moments. And most of the time we are wonderful people. Therefore, do not abandon those you love in difficult times of imperfection, and treat yourself the same way. If you don’t want that, then you don’t deserve to be with them even in those minutes when they are perfect.
7. All the little things matter
Life is not one single moment of triumph and achievement. These are the hard trials and the mistakes that you make - blood, sweat and tears - all these little things that you do every day. In the end, they all matter - every step, every regret, every decision, and every sadness.
All these seemingly useless events are added to something. The low pay job you had when you were in school. Evenings you spent with colleagues you never saw again. The hours you spend writing blog posts that no one reads. Reflections on plans for the future, which never materialized. All those lonely nights spent reading novels, news, comics and fashion magazines, contemplating your own principles about life, sex and religion, and how well you fit those principles.
All of this makes you stronger. All of this led you to the success that you had. All of this made you who you are today.
8. Excuses always lie
It doesn't make sense to deny that there will always be lies between dreaming and too many excuses. You are lying to yourself.
Excuses and explanations will do you no good. They will not add anything of value to your life, they will not improve it one iota. Fulfilling your calling and achieving what you want in life requires more of you than just thinking and talking. This requires targeted and consistent action. And you can easily take all the necessary actions. You just have to make up your mind to actually do it.
No one can succeed in your place. The life you live you create for yourself. There are many perspectives to choose from, and so many opportunities to bridge the gap from where you are to where you want to be. And now is really the time to take a step forward.
