Do you think that a little more time will pass, then real life will begin? Life will pass faster, and you will not be happy. The time to live is not tomorrow, but today!
“When I grow up, then real life will begin,” - I hear a similar phrase in different variations almost every day from people who are going to live a full life when the desired circumstances come.
“I’ll lose weight, become prettier, I’ll be happy”, “I’ll earn money now, and then I’ll feel like a worthy person”, “I’ll run my family, then everything will work out in life”, “I’ll retire, I can finally live in peace”, etc. …
I will divorce, disperse, leave work, meet love, get a mistress, buy a house-car-apartment, build a dacha, move to another city, and I will be great happiness. Will not.
Great happiness is not associated with external circumstances, because they are only a pleasant addition (at times, a significant addition) to what you already have inside. If you do not know how to appreciate what is, you will hardly be able to do it with what will be. If you do not know how to be happy in what life has already offered you, you will not be able to do this and then, when you get what you want.
Delayed Life Syndrome is a disease of modern civilization. The minds of many people live far in the future (or in the past, but this is about getting stuck in the lessons that have not been learned, let's leave this topic outside the scope of this article). Get rich, get on your feet, find happiness, take care of your body, build relationships, but do all this someday later, now there is no time for that.
Life is kind of like, you know? I would like to do something worthwhile and to my liking, but it does not work out in any way, because “work-children-obligations-certain living conditions-family dysfunctional”.
Working twenty years without a vacation, not really paying attention to his spiritual development, health and relationships with loved ones, by the age of 40-50, a person gets a not very well-functioning body, even worse functioning relationships and a deep internal crisis. For what and where did you run all these years? Buy a car, an apartment, a house? Type children to provide? Yes, children need parental love and attention to their problems much more than a dad or mom who disappears around the clock at work.
Children need access to the experience of adults, to their wisdom. Children need support, children need the presence of their parents in their lives. But adequate presence, healthy, adequate presence. Not exhausted mothers-hysterics, tearing off all their dissatisfaction on children, not tired and depressed fathers, aggressively expressing their position, children need parents-mentors.
Spiritually mature, physically healthy, the most ordinary ADULTS are around. With mature adult reactions to events in life. The family should be a support environment for everyone who lives in it. Where will adults with adequate self-esteem and ideas about life come from if most children grow up in families where parents are not used to developing and working on themselves? It's okay to work on children, but don't touch me, I'm already wise and know how to live.
I think that all this is happening because we are not used to thinking at all about the meaning of life. We run and run like squirrels in a wheel, achieve far-fetched results, create an attractive appearance, not caring too much about what is inside. We live with dreams of the future, but we do not know how to learn from the present.
Yes, after graduating from school, a person is waiting for a college or university, but this does not mean that from the fifth grade he should live only with the thought that he will enter the university in six years, and he will somehow spend these years, they would pass faster, Yes? But this is SIX YEARS OF LIFE !!!!! Yes, there will be a university, we mean that, we are preparing for it, but we live here, we live the life of a schoolchild, because this period of life will never be repeated, you need to live it as it is, try to get the maximum benefit from it.
You don't have a loved one, so what? Sit and cry that you want to get married or get married? So rejoice, life gives you the opportunity to better prepare for the meeting. Grow, develop, study the topic of relationships, increase your level of competence, but be in the present.
Communicate more with friends and girlfriends, meet new people, take care of your health, work, look for yourself, and your person will definitely come one day. And what is the use of sending you a normal person if you sit still and, like a great bore, endlessly repeat that you want a relationship.
There is a time for everything, each fruit must ripen. What else is there, the house has not been completed, money has not been earned, the purpose of life has not been determined? A few more years, and you will still take care of your health, hobby, something else, but not yet. Well, well, what if your life ends much earlier than you have time to do all this? What is this waste of precious years? What else? Will you rest when you retire, will you build relationships when you earn money? Oh, yes, this is all nonsense.
If you really want to get something, then you need to start with in order to get the most out of today's life circumstances. There is no need to put off life until tomorrow, it is too fleeting.
Accept your yesterday, reflect on tomorrow, but live in today. Live as fully as possible in your reality today. There is a whole world inside each person, and if you start to put it in order, then everything external will start to help you with pleasure.
There are those who live, and those who are going to live, who are you?
Every moment we die and are reborn, every moment is fraught with the great beauty of life, every meeting carries with it amazing discoveries. Look into yourself, and around too. The sky is so beautiful, the people nearby are very good, the body is alive and healthy, thanks to life for all this. Accept with gratitude what is, and do not shift the responsibility for your own happiness to some circumstances from the future.
“Dance as if no one sees you, sing as if no one hears you, love, as if you have never been in pain, live as if heaven is already on earth..”
