It would be nice to decide on the attitude towards women. They are idolized, despised, hated or feared. But how is it correct? How to treat the fairer sex and respect your interests?
- Previously, men for the sake of women committed various romantic nonsense - climbed through windows, fought duels, sang serenades …
- Yes, the wrong women have gone today …
In addition, it would be nice to define the attitude towards women in general. Some men idolize them. Others despise. Still others hate. Others are afraid. Etc. And how is it correct?
Let's think logically and call a spade a spade. The relationship of a man and a woman is the relationship of two creatures with different anatomy, physiology, psychology and interests, but related to sexual attraction. At the same time, a woman is a highly primative being. She is governed by instincts, emotions much stronger than reason. Often her behavior is not logical, absurd. That is, according to male criteria, she is only partially sane. In addition, a modern emancipated woman who does not perform a reproductive function (giving birth to less than three children) is not a full-fledged female. She, actively acting in the labor market, in business and other fields of human activity besides the household, is a competitor of men. Having two or fewer children, a woman has too much free time and energy to psychologically suppress a man. In addition, with modern matriarchy, she has the opportunity, having robbed him, to live for her pleasure without his household support. Therefore, such a woman is potentially more dangerous than a woman who has three or more children. There was such a term in Soviet times to designate relations with the countries of the civilized world: "potential enemy." That is, it is not yet an enemy, but a subject from whom hostile actions can be expected at any moment. At the moment of manifestation of hostile actions, he becomes an enemy, but for now you can interact with him on a mutually beneficial basis. For example, as with a partner. But not as a friend. In the same way, if an emancipated woman is fighting for the deprivation of rights and resources from a man, then in this case she is already an enemy of a man. And there is no need to be ashamed of this word. The enemy. Therefore, your task is to build a system of your financial and emotional security when interacting with a potential adversary. Simply, be on the lookout and don’t substitute. First of all, remember that we live under matriarchy, and therefore the legislation is anti-male. Moreover, every year it becomes more and more anti-male. And when you register a marriage, you put this insane matriarchal state as a third person in your bed. Consider if you need this - anti-male matriarchal legislation in your own bedroom. A woman who truly loves and respects her man will not insist that she has a legal advantage over him. She does not plan to blackmail or rob him, so she does not need this advantage. A woman who plans such a development of events, on the contrary, will insist on the registration of marriage, and on transactions with your real estate, accounts, property. If the woman began to regularly mention marriage, your money and apartment - think about whether you need it and consult a man's lawyer. Well, always remember that about 20% of husbands naively provide children who have no genetic relationship to them.
Speaking of emotional security, by the way. It is very important. Somehow I came across an entry in the diary of a lady about her former rich man. She was indignant, they say, a fucking oligarch, knocked her through his channels, found out that she was on vacation with another man, and broke off the relationship. A scoundrel, they say … I'm not even now that it was she who acted meanly, twisting at the same time with several men. I am about how he did the right thing, not blindly trusting the woman, but testing her, monitoring her behavior. Without letting go of control of the situation. He took care of his emotional safety. After all, if he trusted, became attached, fell in love, then such a woman of the "bitch" system would surely betray and set him up. Would hurt him. Would take it out of working condition. And the well-being of his company rests on the stability of the boss's emotional state. The fate of all his employees and their families depends on him. This is a huge responsibility to them.
Emotional security is the security of your privacy. Health safety. Financial security. Safety of people for whom we are responsible, business partners and employees, relatives. All this turns out to be directly related to the reliability and adequacy of our sexual partner. And the higher the level of the game called “life”, the more we are obliged to treat the sexual partner as part of the business. Count money, calculate and control the situation. It is a matter of responsibility and self-respect.
Since then, by the way, the word "scoundrel" means for me the highest compliment to a man. It denotes a man who is able to live by his own interests.
And do not listen to female manipulative fables such as: "He who sees through women, he loses a lot." Indeed, he loses a lot. Disappointments, for example … He loses the opportunity to be thrown, divorced at the grandmother, unhappy and sexually dissatisfied … He also loses chains … He loses the opportunity to fall into the unrequited love of the Dynamo system … Many losses … then. There is truth, one loss that some cling to … The ability to live in an irresponsible illusory world. "Lose your head." This is how a drug addict clings to a syringe, a drunkard to a cologne funfirk, a lazy person and a loser to a TV set. Don't be afraid to live in the real world. It's real - cool, cool and cool, as young people say. It is much more interesting to play by your own rules than by strangers. And the payoff is greater. Well, besides, despite the knowledge, the instinctive ability to “lose your head” is still preserved. Only an additional ability appears - to gain a lost head in case of danger. Fast and painless. Checked. A man with knowledge of inter-sex relations is like a businessman who knows economics, management and jurisprudence. Such a businessman is free to navigate and achieves great success and wealth. A man who does not have knowledge of inter-sex relations is like an illiterate janitor who decides to go into business. Such a grief a businessman is practically doomed to bankruptcy. He will make the wrong decisions, he will be deceived by scammers, he will be robbed by employees and set up by partners.
How to treat a specific woman in a specific situation. It all depends on the specific situation. How far has female dominance gone. How tough it is. Is the man's pain threshold exceeded? In some cases, it is better to divorce and look for a more suitable companion. In others, you can bargain and, with patience, gradually change the relationship. Thirdly (for example, it is a pity to abandon children), you can change your attitude towards the very relationship with a woman. Stop taking them too seriously and expecting the impossible from the dominant woman - friendship, support, kindness, reliability and other mythological paraphernalia, stop "steam and load". To begin to treat a woman as a kind of domestic creature that has little in common with a man, which they really are. For example, if we get a dog, we know that it has wool, smell, that it needs to be fed, walked and trained. And we do not expect from her that you can drink beer with her and discuss a football match, and even more so we do not worry about this. "A woman is a woman, what to take from her" - said our grandfathers and were deeply right.
Should a woman be respected? First of all, let's define what respect is. To be more precise, respect is nothing more than an instinctive recognition of status. Positions, the position of the individual in the group hierarchy. For example, if we feel the emotion of "respect" towards our boss, this means that our hierarchical instinct recognizes his right to control us, considers the decisions he makes to be correct. Respecting, we put the boss either above ourselves, or on the same level with ourselves in the hierarchy. In highly primative human individuals in the conditions of a pyramidal social hierarchy, there are only innate criteria of respect: "afraid, then respects." They respect only the strength, conflict stability of high-ranking officials. However, in different types of hierarchies, education instills respect for other elements of the hierarchy. To the law, court, police, bureaucrat, etc. That is, the individual forms a recognition of a specific hierarchical structure. This is how respect for man in general is cultivated in a liberal society. In the structure of high-tech production, the respect of the boss for the highly qualified, therefore valuable for production, subordinate can be cultivated. In a partriarchal society, a man with a family is respected. In a matriarchal society, respect for women as such and disrespect for men in general are cultivated in every possible way.
There is a serious catch in this respect, instilled in matriarchy. We read in Freud: “… the love manifestations of a man in our modern cultural society generally bear typical signs of mental impotence …; a man almost always feels constrained in the manifestations of his sex life due to a sense of respect for a woman and shows his full potency only when he deals with a low sexual object. " What's the matter here? Why respect for a woman makes a man impotent? Let's figure it out. By recognizing the woman as the main one, above himself in the hierarchy, the man thereby positions himself as a low-ranking male. And the reproduction of low-ranking ones in nature is not provided. The weak genetic line should not be continued. Therefore, the reproduction of low-ranking ones is blocked in all possible ways. And a low-ranking woman does not want dynamite. And the low-ranking one himself is sexually unsuccessful, his potency is reduced. And the dominant woman is sexually unattractive to the man. Several mechanisms are involved at once, reducing the likelihood of mating. Therefore, many Europeans and Russians prefer to travel to third world countries and copulate there with men who despise them. And their compatriots, brought up in the spirit of respect for a woman, remain alone with this respect or, in turn, go to Thailand to copulate with women they disrespect.
In general, it's up to you, but from my point of view, wanting and loving women is much more preferable than respecting them. But here, too, you need to understand that love is different. The same word refers to completely different emotional states. There is love for a woman as a supreme being. Love-service-worship-respect. This is the love of a low-ranking one. The so-called platonic love is from the same group of emotions. It is this kind of love that kills the libido. And there is love for a woman as a lower being. It is love-care-care-management-guidance. Leader's love. On the contrary, it enhances libido. A model-looking girlfriend of mine complained that decent men were much more likely to admit respect to her than love. And they are afraid to approach her, to take the initiative in a relationship, to start courting. Well, or they love from afar, sighing and not daring to approach. If she herself takes the initiative, such men get scared and run away. And only drunken thugs, arrogant and unceremonious, take the initiative. It was very insulting to her.
It is possible to recognize the place of a woman in the male hierarchy (to respect an emancipated woman) only if she occupies this place according to male criteria of law. That is, for real professional or business merits, and not because she robbed her husband during a divorce, makes eyes at the boss, sleeps with the boss, or holds a position according to a legislative quota pushed by feminists. Recognizing a woman's place in the female hierarchy (respecting a woman giving birth to children and providing a man with the rear) is easy, no problem. But again, if she fully copes with her duties. That is, if the house and children are in order, and her man is happy. It is this type of respect, respect for the mother woman and the homemaker that is widespread and cultivated in balanced societies of the planet. You can only respect something. This is only loved in spite of common sense and in spite of real merit. However, this does not mean that women need to be rude or humiliated for no reason. On the contrary, you need to be polite and discreet. And put in place only if necessary, if the woman is the first to cross the border of what is permissible. In addition, no one has canceled love for one's neighbor, that is, the altruistic higher instincts. Therefore, love women as females and as members of your society. And respect only if you have something for what, if it is a cool professional or a good mother. Respect your wife for raising children well and making excellent borscht. For the fact that she completely suits you in bed. But it is a mistake to respect a woman as such. And indeed, why respect a glamorous fool who dreams of selling dearly metered access to her painted and perfumed carcass? Absurd!
If you do not have a couple yet, you are young and are experiencing difficulties already at the stage of dating, then study the experience of pick-up artists. A pickup truck is a movement of young people who purposefully learn to imitate the behavior inherent in a high-ranking male in relationships with women. And it works. Complexity, instilled in matriarchal upbringing, goes away. And the man gets the skill of correct interaction with the woman. This movement arises as soon as there is a matriarchal imbalance in society or its upper strata. The basics of an antique pickup were described by Ovid in his "Science of Love". Such pickup experts as A. Pushkin and M. Lermontov are widely known. Today, modern pick-up methods can be found on relevant Internet sites, trainings and in numerous books. Pickupers invade the females' holy of holies - mating control. For this, many women hate and scold them. This is natural. But don't pay attention to it.
But as the classic said: "… Praise and slander were accepted indifferently and do not challenge a fool." So just learn and do what you see fit.
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Source: Novoselov Oleg “Woman. Textbook for men
