Mistakes to avoid when speaking. Some people make a lot of mistakes in normal conversation. How to avoid making classic mistakes and looking good when dealing with people.
Mistakes to avoid when speaking
First mistake. Boasting
Some people are confident that by showing off a cool new car or big paychecks, they will be able to impress others. This is partly true. They will impress others … fools. Smart people will consider them empty and uninteresting. When someone consciously tries to elevate himself, it immediately catches the eye, and, as a rule, such efforts cause the exact opposite effect.
Second mistake. Lots of tips
All people love to be smart and give “good” advice. This is not overly surprising. When someone tells you about their problems, the first thing that comes to mind is to support, express their point of view, share their experience, but sometimes a person just needs to speak out. Learn to refrain from commenting in situations where you feel they might be redundant. Usually people themselves ask for advice if they really need it. In this case, try not to overdo it. An overly active advisor from the outside may seem like a self-absorbed smart guy who is sure that he knows the answers to all questions. Those who are faced with a real problem are annoyed by such know-it-alls.
Third mistake. "And I … and I … and me …"
There are people who begin to discuss only one topic - their loved ones. And they turn any conversation into a monologue to oneself. This is annoying. And it becomes reluctant to talk with such a person.
The fourth mistake. Gossip
Have you decided to discuss with a friend the ugly outfit of the lady opposite, the dirty hair of a mutual friend or the last novel of your neighbor? In this case, it is not surprising if this will be your last conversation with this person. Gossiping and discussing others is an amateur activity.
Of course, such conversations give a feeling of superiority over others, but at the same time, they include a lot of negative moments. They are boring, useless and leave an unpleasant aftertaste behind. In addition, if you are happy to discuss others, your interlocutor may easily think that as soon as he leaves, you will take over him - this will kill the desire to communicate with you.
Fifth mistake. Fear of making a mistake
One of the biggest mistakes in conversation is the constant fear of making a mistake. When a person is very focused on making a good impression of a pleasant interlocutor, it immediately catches the eye - he picks up every word, and his thoughts are concentrated somewhere deep inside, and not on the dialogue itself. You need to be simpler, to be who you are. Think what you say and say what you think.
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