Why do men rarely say words of love, sometimes they are silent, do not know how to deal with women and love complicated words.
12 new questions about men, the answers to which our ancestors will give for us. Based on materials from Allan and Barbara Pease "Relationship Language"
1. Why do men like complicated words
Without a special area in the brain responsible for speech, the hunter needed the ability to convey a large amount of information using a minimum number of words: this is why a special area for vocabulary appeared in his brain, which is located in the back of the left hemisphere.
In women, the front and back parts of both hemispheres are responsible for the vocabulary, as a result of which she is not strong from this point of view. Accordingly, the wording of the term and the meaning of the word are not particularly important for a woman: she relies on intonation when it is necessary to convey the meaning, and on facial expressions and gestures when expressing emotion.
Men use phraseology as a weapon in their fight against each other, and terminological definitions become an important tactical device in this game.
2. Why men are silent when stressed
The woman speaks out, referring to the interlocutor. The man's interlocutor is he himself, because he talks to himself. He does not have a special area responsible for speech, so this manner corresponds to his program. When a man has a problem, he begins to talk to himself, and a woman - to others.
That is why a man, under the load of problems or in a stressful state, withdraws into himself and becomes silent. He uses the right hemisphere, trying to solve problems or find solutions: at this time, the left hemisphere, which is responsible for speaking and hearing, is off from work. His brain can do "only one thing" at a time. He cannot solve problems and at this time speak or listen.
DAVID JACQUES LOUIS Madame Récamier.
10. Why men are silent when having sex
A man can only do one thing at a time. When he gets an erection, it is difficult for him to say anything, listen or drive a car - which is why men rarely talk during copulation. Sometimes a woman has to listen to his breathing in order to understand at what stage he is. A man loves it when a woman speaks obscenities, about what she can do and how she will please him - but only before sex, not in the process. A man can lose passion (and erection) when a woman says something to him during sex. During sex, a man's right hemisphere is actively functioning, and a brain scan indicates such absorption in his occupation that he becomes practically deaf.
For a woman, conversation is an essential part of the preliminary game, because for her words are important in themselves. If a man becomes silent during sex, she may imagine that he is not very interested in her. A man needs to say many love words during the preliminary play in order to satisfy the woman's needs for them. At the same time, during the actual act of love, a woman should be silent and use only monosyllabic sounds in order to maintain interest in a man - a lot of "oohs" and "oohs" are quite enough for a man to satisfy the need for information about what is reaction to his actions. If a woman talks during the process, then a man who feels obligated to answer may lose arousal, and the moment will be irrevocably lost. The female brain does not react to the chemicals that are associated with sex drive as intensely as the male brain. During sex, the woman does not lose sight of the changes in the environment, and the man is completely detached. In this case, we see the ancient biological nature of a woman in action: she continuously controls the environment, hears all sounds. She must be sure that no one sneaks into the nest, attacks her children, and steals them. Many men know how difficult it is to persuade a woman to have sex in an open area or in a room with thin walls or unlocked doors. It also becomes clear the origin of one of the most secret female fantasies - sex in public - which is associated with her innate fears.
DAVID JACQUES LOUIS Love of Paris and Helena, 1788
12. Why men love to be touched
The hormone oxytocin is known as the "cuddle hormone". It enters the bloodstream when someone's skin is gently stroked or someone is embraced in a gentle embrace. It increases sensitivity to touch and induces a sense of community, being a major determinant of a woman's behavior towards children and men. When a woman starts feeding her baby, this hormone kicks in the way milk is released from the breast. If a woman wants to please a man by touching him, she will touch him as she would like to feel the touch of herself. She will scratch his head, caress his face, massage his back and gently touch his hair. Such affection for many men has no effect and can even be annoying. His skin is less sensitive than women, so that he does not feel pain and does not notice injuries while hunting.
Men prefer to be touched in only one place, and the more often the better. These differences lead to disagreements. When a man wants to touch a woman sensually, he reaches out to those places that are most sensitive to him. A woman, on the other hand, hates too intimate touch above all else: the result is mutual disgust. When a man and a woman learn to please each other by touching their partner the way they like best, their relationship will become much richer.
