11 secrets of men. Every man has a moment in life when he realizes that sometimes he needs to hide his real self. Men's secrets.
I was 9 in grade when I learned a valuable lesson about love. My girlfriend Ami was very attractive, terribly smart and armed with what seemed like a myriad of these flattering angora sweaters. And I? Let's just say I was a teenager who knew very well how lucky I was.
And then one fine day, when we were in line at the cinema, Simon Shaw, the queen of the ball, walked past us. Suddenly Ami turned to me and asked. “Have you seen her? Do you think she is beautiful? " My eyes dimmed. Of course I was looking at her! Of course she was beautiful! She's Simon Shaw! I thought for a second and then decided to be honest.
"Well, yes," I managed.
Five days later, our break thundered throughout the school.
Every man has a moment in life when he realizes that sometimes he needs to hide his real self. He begins to invent sweet lies: "No honey, you're just a great driver", "No honey, I didn't look at the student who washed the car", "No honey, I only play golf for exercise."
This is not entirely a lie. We're just… simplifying things a little. But Glenn Goode, Ph. D., a relationship consultant, disagrees, or maybe he's right somewhere. “This white lie is naive, but it can raise doubts. Many women think that if a man is lying about himself, then he can lie about anything? Maybe he has another woman? Thus, in order to establish trust, one must speak the truth about harmless things."
Secret # 1: Yes, we like other women, but that doesn't mean we want to leave you.
This does not apply to my mother-in-law.
Male secret number 7: Every year we love you more and more
Of course, we look like adults. We have several suits. We can order wine without giggling. And although we look like our father when he was at the same age, we still feel like a 4-year-old boy, grabbing his pant leg.
Every year we feel that we are just beginning to admire you at 40, 50 and even 60 years old. This cannot be explained, because the explanations will look as if we do not love you right now.
“It took me a year to really start appreciating my wife for more than just great sex; and I discovered her brilliant mind only after three years of marriage,”says Newton. "The older and wiser I get, the more I love my wife." J. P. Neil, 32, of Potomac, Maryland, adds: "Wealth or poverty, the good or bad in marriage, cannot get you astray."
Secret # 8: We don't really understand what you're talking about.
During the day, do you think about different aspects of our relationship? And when you get home, do you want to "discuss" them? And during such "discussions" your man sits in front of you, nods his head and says something like: "Of course, I understand", "It really makes sense", "I'll do it better another time"?
We don't really understand. But we will try to do better next time only if we have even the slightest idea what you are talking about.
Secret # 9: We're scared when you drive
Do you want to see your fearless man with a bundle of nerves and fear? Ask him for the car keys. “I'm scared to death when she gets behind the wheel,” says LaFlamme. "Every time I ride with her, I am completely confident that I will die the next second."
“My wife has at least one car story a week - and it’s never her fault. All of these cases just happen - maybe because of her bad luck,”says Andy Beshuk, 31, of Jefferson City, Missouri.
Even if your man is diplomatic, he is terribly afraid that you could fly into an accident around the next corner.
Secret # 10: We always wish it was 25 again
When I was 25, I worked 16 hours a day and ate shrimp pasta six times a week. But the more we enjoy being with you, the more often we mentally return to our carefree, disorganized youth. “Many are reminiscing about the days when life was beautiful, uncomplicated and free from responsibility,” says Rob Aronson, 41, Livingston, NJ, married 11 years. "At 25, you succeed in things that are no longer possible at 40."
This does not mean that we will leave you for a rock band. It just explains that sometimes we come home from Pep Boys - Manny, Mo & Jack with a steering wheel braid and old vinyl.
Male Secret 11: Give us five minutes of freedom and our life at your feet.
It was in Mexico when, standing on the beach, rubbing my surf, watching the 3 meter waves, I decided to marry the woman who is now my wife. Before that, for three years I walked around the bush about this question. And it was only there that I made the final decision.
And it is true.
Photo: Dan Queiroz flickr.com/nyllows