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How can you make a subtle, intelligent and elegant compliment that would characterize a man as a cultured and well-mannered person?
Compliments are loved by everyone, without exception. True, not everyone knows how to take them calmly and with dignity. Complimenting is science, art and psychology in one bottle. Girls love with their ears, the old worldly wisdom does not dissemble. How can you make a subtle, intelligent and elegant compliment that would characterize a man as a cultured and well-mannered person?
Why are compliments needed?
Psychologists believe that a compliment can help a woman build self-esteem and self-esteem. Each person lives in society, it is important for him to get the approval of people, proof that he is acting and living correctly. A girl makes so much effort to look beautiful, to please a man, she expects a compliment from him as confirmation of her irresistibility. However, to say in the forehead: "How good you are!" you can only from the bottom of your heart, sincerely and enthusiastically. In all other cases, these same words will be perceived as a mockery.
Flattery and compliment are close relatives, but by lavishing flattery, a person greatly exaggerates the dignity of a counterpart. A compliment either states a fact, or only slightly embellishes reality. Praise and compliment also live next door. Praise, as an assessment of some phenomenon or action, is possible only from the mouth of a superior boss or a more adult person, as psychologists say, while adjustment from above takes place. A compliment is an extension from below, that is, the object of praise is exalted.
• A sensual compliment. If a man truly loves a woman, it is not difficult for him to say a sincere compliment, he simply talks about his feelings, about what he is experiencing at the moment. “Next to you, I always feel like a real knight. Thank you for that, dear. " "It's so easy for me to be with you, you are the only one who understands me."
• An indirect compliment. It takes some practice to make such a compliment. It's easier to make a direct compliment - what you see is what you say. The girl lives in her own world, where the choice of work, hobbies, habits is her personal living space, she is a part of the whole. Having approved of what she loves, you can emphasize her uniqueness, give an enthusiastic assessment of her taste. “You work in such a modern company, you have a wonderful office in the center”, “What a cozy house you have, everything is laid out on the shelves, you always want to return to this one”, “Your lyrical mess says only one thing: a creative person lives here”.
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• Romantic compliments. This type of expression of your feelings is appropriate in a closer and more trusting relationship, when falling in love passes into the phase of passion. Such compliments involve the use of poetic and enthusiastic, allegorical similes. "You are my guiding star", "Clear sun", "Aphrodite, Venus, Artemis", "Divine become", "You are like a statue of a great sculptor, so perfect and flawless." In these cases, slight exaggeration is encouraged. However, if a girl, for example, is too slim, and a man calls her "bun", even tenderly, she may be offended.
• Compliments, proven over the years. There is a kind of male confession that does not fade over the years, although it is sometimes considered old-fashioned. It was used by grandfathers and their ancestors, this is the so-called "imperishable", which is not subject to the influence of time. Any girl, even the most modern one, was brought up on good old fairy tales, therefore she dreams of love illusory. To support her dream of a prince on a white horse, men use compliments from their grandfather's chest. “You are a real angel”, “My only one”, “You are the love of my life”, “Fascinated by you, madam”. If at the same time a man gallantly kisses the lady's hand, she will never forget this fact of her biography.
The ability to make beautiful compliments is part of the general culture of a man, expressing his attitude towards a woman. The main components of an appropriate, subtle compliment are sincerity, benevolence, dosage. Too many sweet compliments can set the teeth on edge, busting "raspberry syrup" is harmful to any girl, she wants peppercorns.
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It is interesting
For those who experience creative stagnation and the words of love suddenly “dry up” in the lexicon, there is a “Dictionary of Compliments”, which contains colorful epithets desirable for any girl. Such a linguistic "treasure" can be purchased both in paper form and found on the vast expanses of the worldwide Internet.
Not a day without a compliment - such a slogan can be taken for yourself at the very beginning of "learning", as soon as this rule becomes a habit, sincere praise will be a natural norm of behavior. Compliments can and should be given to everyone, with or without reason, most importantly - from the heart, with feeling. However, the best compliment, according to women, is the loss of speechlessness from admiration for their lady of the heart.
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