To which her friend, smiling mysteriously, replied: “I’m just a REAL WOMAN”. There is something to think about.
A musician friend of mine divorced his wife and started a romantic relationship with a lady who was a little older than him. Once, at the very beginning of their life together (they decided to try), he had to get up very early, at about 6 in the morning, to go to the airport and go on tour. Well, he got up quietly so as not to wake his girlfriend, and got ready to make himself breakfast. A friend also got up and cooked breakfast for him herself. The time is 6 am.
And I must say that my friend was completely unaccustomed to such things. That is, in his past family life, there was no question that his wife would cook breakfast for him at 6 in the morning. He and his mother did not always get up about breakfast when he went to school, more somehow his father was engaged in this, it just so happened. Therefore, he, not spoiled, was pleasantly, but very surprised by such an event, and even said to his girlfriend: here, they say, you are such a fine fellow, and my ex was incapable of such a thing. To which her friend, smiling mysteriously, replied: “I’m just a REAL WOMAN”.
Well, can we “fit” such a “code” to the fair sex? After all, it is also common for men to strive for a certain ideal, to create it in their imagination …
In short, a REAL WOMAN - what is she like? How do we guys represent it?
To begin with, I should clarify what I myself mean by the concept of "a real man."
I will try to briefly formulate some rules for a man, the observance of which makes him "real" in my mind.
There can be as many of them as you like, but we will limit ourselves to the five main ones
2. A man himself makes decisions in his life and is responsible for them. Blames no one for his failures, except himself. Also, it seems, everything is clear.
3. A man should be able to do something in life. He must have a business that determines the vector of his actions. As another friend of mine, also a musician, said: "The main thing for a man in life is work." By the way, when I conveyed these words to the wife of another friend of mine (a musician, of course, as you probably already guessed), a mother of two children, she didn't really like them. It seems she thought that the main thing in the life of a musician is his family … Naive.
4. A real man should be able to conquer his fears. Perhaps this is the most difficult thing. Because there are plenty of fears in the life of any man. And nevertheless - it should. For example, fear is guaranteed to get in the nose if circumstances require you to intercede for the weak. Or fear of the consequences, when the need has ripened to tell your boss everything you think about him. Of course, this does not mean that you need to get involved in all the fights in a row or be rude to your bosses.
5. Well, and the last thing. A real man will never allow a woman to rule his life. Let us recall Batalov's Gosha from the film "Moscow Does Not Believe in Tears", his scene with Alentova, when she demands that he not get involved in anything without her permission, and he almost sends her. This is very accurate.
Now let's try to deal with women. Here, too, as I see it, there are five basic postulates. Five main signs of a REAL woman.
Well, it's more fun, it's not all that serious.
2. A real woman is always not indifferent to how she looks. Well, it would seem a banality, but - do all women, for example, in marriage, try to constantly maintain their attractiveness to their husbands? After all, he seems to be "caught", and will not go anywhere. Here he is, next to him, on the couch. And to paint for his sake every day, "marafet" to direct … No, girls, go away. One fine (terrible) day, the sofa may turn out to be empty - someone was more careful about their appearance … And then there is nothing to be offended.
Sharon Stone was once asked how she felt in marriage. “Difficult,” she replied. - In the morning I wake up, my husband is asleep, I - sneaked out of bed, put on my makeup, and - back. So that, God forbid, I do not see the WRONG."
3. A real woman always respects the BUSINESS that her man is doing. Even if she is completely uninterested in it. Even if this business does not bring very much income (and indeed none at all). If she sees that this business is real, and it is important for a man, he devotes his life to this, she will always support him. Let us recall, perhaps, Anna Grigorievna Snitkina, Dostoevskaya in marriage. And Xantippa, Socrates' wife, we will not remember … She bothered him a lot …
My wife categorically objects to the presence of any "militarism" among the toys of our little son - soldiers, pistols, weapons. I think it's not about the fear that something aggressive will grow out of the child - which of the boys didn't have soldiers? - rather, it is just an internal, perhaps on an unconscious level, rejection of everything that is associated with destruction. Perhaps I am wrong, but it seems to me that Jeanne D'Arc and Xena are the lord of the warriors, in the light of the above, women are not real …
5. Well, and the last thing. Sometime in my childhood I read a fairy tale that amazed me. To one king, an evil wizard asked a riddle. Royal life depended on the correct answer. The riddle sounded like this: what in the world is most desirable for a woman? Of course, answers like "gold - diamonds - pearls - outfits" did not heal. The desperate king was helped by an ugly sorceress who, for some of the services rendered, prompted the king the correct answer: "The most desirable thing for a woman is power over a man."
It surprised me so much that I asked my dad what he thought about it. He chuckled and replied, "Well, Homer wrote about that." That is, it is an ancient truth.
In general, it is clear what any real woman secretly dreams about … And on this occasion, see paragraph 5 of the real man's code.
