Table of contents:
- There can be several reasons why we read other people's SMS messages. Here are just a few of them:
- Opinions of ordinary people:
- Professional opinion:
- My opinion:
For many people, it is simply necessary to know all the details of the life of their soulmate … Reading other people's SMS messages: who needs it and why?
Quite often I receive spam on my e-mail in the form of various letters offering certain services. For example, quite recently, several messages arrived at once with the content, like, "Do you want to read other people's SMS?" A certain company offers to purchase a special computer program with which you can download SMS from any phone number, while remaining anonymous.
In fact, this program turned out to be just another "enticement" of money from gullible people and a serious virus for the computer.
“I can reassure everyone, unauthorized persons have no technical ability to access subscribers' SMS,” said Ekaterina OSADCHAYA, press secretary of Beeline. "It's just impossible."
But curious girls do not despair - since such a global method is not yet possible, all that remains is "spying" on someone else's phone and simply reading SMS messages …
There can be several reasons why we read other people's SMS messages. Here are just a few of them:
Reason 1. "Knowledge is power" or "forewarned is forearmed"
For many people, it is simply necessary to know all the details of the life of their soul mate. It doesn't matter from what area: personal life, work, communication with parents or just correspondence with friends. Sometimes we believe that there is no personal life without our participation and cannot be. This means that there is nothing wrong with reading messages, and this is not a secret at all.
Reason 2. Mistrust, jealousy
Actually: jealousy in moderation is of course helpful. She can revitalize relationships, bring novelty and some zest to them. But, again, only in moderation. If there is no trust in a relationship, and jealousy crosses all boundaries, it is unlikely that something good and long-term will come out of such a union. And family life in general will turn into hell.
Reason 3. Just like that, out of curiosity
Of course, this is not a reason to get into the "personal" life of your second half, but nevertheless, many of the fair sex are justified by this. After all, it is always interesting what your loved one does in your absence, with whom he meets, how he spends time, with whom he corresponds.
Actually: of course, no one died of curiosity. Still, your over-curiosity can seriously ruin your relationship. Not every man will forgive reading his SMS messages, even for this seemingly harmless reason.
Reason 4. Suspicions
Everything is simple here: if you ask your young man to give you his messages to read, and he starts making excuses, saying that it is his "personal", hiding the phone and putting codes on this service so that you cannot open it, it becomes doubly interesting - it means, he's hiding something. You are beginning to be tormented by the thought that he has another woman, a mistress.
Reason 5. The phone caught my eye
Enough, silly, but sometimes "working" reason. You are sitting at home, your loved one is playing a computer or washing in the shower. Nothing to do, you're bored. His mobile phone is in front of his eyes all the time - you can't help it …
Actually: the phone can't just catch your eye. After all, in the same way, the mobile phone lies
and in the presence of a man: in the same place, in the same position … So, you are still very interested to find out with whom and about what your man is in correspondence.
Opinions of ordinary people:
1. SMS readers lack attention
“People who are usually very jealous and do not trust their partners climb into the phone… And no matter what you do with your phone, they will still find a way to“dig”something. This, you know, is a disease … It's just a necessity for life, a need for something to catch a beloved (beloved) … Well, I won't go into psychology, but I need to think about it … Rather, not even about the one who "digs", but about that, on whom they are "digging" … Why did you do that, that they do not trust you so much … And think, HOW to add self-confidence to your loved ones? Can pay more attention or say more often how you love them. In a pair, it is better to know what who needs …"
2. The less you know - you sleep better
“SMS, e-mail and other types of correspondence are personal information. And by reading them, you only invade the personal life of this person, which is not very good. And problems and doubts arise after that. So the less you know, the better you sleep."
It turns out that this question is extremely popular not only among women, but also among men. Several polls are devoted to him, which are not difficult to find on the Internet. Here is one of them:
Have you ever read SMS on someone else's phone?
• Didn't read (a) - 167 people (20, 22%)
• I read it, but pretend not to know - 428 people (51, 82%)
• I read it, then it was a soooo scandal! - 145 people (17, 55%)
• I read, wrote to my ex in revenge - 15 people (1, 82%)
• And I don't care - 50 people (6, 05%)
• What if he (a) is good at covering his tracks? - 21 people (2, 54%)
Reading SMS is a sign of disrespect and mistrust
Svetlana Kostina-Erykalova (consultant psychologist):
“There are many everyday arguments for and against in this matter. Let's look at the situation from a psychological point of view. Reading a person's personal correspondence is:
• serious intrusion into his personal, intimate area
• a manifestation of disrespect for the individual
• one of the forms of violence against the human psyche
• an indicator of a lack of trust in a relationship
Violence in all its forms engenders violence and destruction, overt or covert. Do you need this in your relationship? What price are you willing to pay for questionable information, and what will it give you? Are you ready to do the same to you? Before committing an act, consider its consequences."
Personally, I believe that in no case can you "get into" someone else's phone without the knowledge and permission of the owner thereof. Each person should have some kind of personal life, space, air …
Plus, it’s possible that you will not like at all that he writes to his best friend or work colleague. So why be nervous and upset in vain?